Helping child with making friends and social interaction?

It's hard for parents because you want to help your child, but knowing if you personally get involved it will either embarrass them or cause other issues.

My son had some of these tendencies and we got involved in cub scouts. It forces the boys to interact, to take on leadership roles, but also gives them a chance to get some of that nervous energy out at the end of the meeting/program. It has really helped him to settle down around other kids his age. the parents really do stay in the background and don't interfere unless these is a safety issue.

Getting your daughter involved in a social activity or a seasonal sport might be the best way to get her active and give her some experience with kids her age. 4-H, youth group, summer camp, or a school/community sponsored athletic program.

Has your daughter gone through a separation with someone she loved such as a death of a family member? If she has gone through a significant loss then she needs counseling. I would also suggest getting her into a class outside school hours that is based on improving self esteem. Being called names and not having many friends is a big self esteem killer. I agree that she needs to be taught how to behave appropriately in a social setting. Does your daughter suffer from an intellectual disability? Because her behavior does sound pretty radical for a child her age when normally they are aware of what's appropriate and what isn't at 9 years old. I would even consider taking her to a pediatrician for an assessment and advice.

Maybe she's a nerd. Sorry, but it's true -- not every girl was created to be head cheerleader and homecoming queen. Maybe if you were less pushy and expecting her to be popular, she'd learn to accept herself and find friends, albeit unpopular, nerdy ones, who would accept her the way she is. Get her involved in an activity of HER choosing that she is actually interested in, and perhaps she can find at least some activity partners if not bosom buddies.

Start by accepting her the way she is. Your anxiety about her social life is probably what's fueling her behavior. If she was confident and accepted herself, she would not be like this, but as I said, not every girl is created to be Miss Popular so stop expecting that.

Honestly, this is all just a learning experience for her. If she wants a social life she has to learn from her mistakes and try hard not to make them again.

I don't want to bring up diagnosing problems or anything because I'm not a licensed therapist, but look into Asperger's syndrome. It's one cause of social problems such as not knowing when people aren't interested or being very attached to people. I have that problem myself, and I'm not sure if it helps to know or to be oblivious, but she should do whatever she can legally to stay happy. People just need to take her in small doses

All kids go through stages like this ALL kids. Try putting her in after school activities, this way she can socialize with friends outside of school. She will mature as time goes on so don't worry about her maturity level.

First take her to a therapist.

Not because she is "crazy" but because she will freely talk (even though you wish her too talk to you kids minds would rather talk to someone else)

then send her to a "social" camp it's for kids like her.

Hope this helps.

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