Should I approach the parent of the child who invited everyone in the class to their party but my son?

Hi and this is going to sound harsh BUT, i know what this is like my son has autism and never gets invited to parties but you should teach your son that it does happen, she may not have wanted him there because not a lot of parents know how to cope with children with asd adhd aspergers and maybe this was the case, i can understand your upset but if he went because you had kicked up a fuss about it and was invited what if he is left out or not welcome ..personally i would rather he didn't go

I would ask maybe put it in a way like oh I'm not sure if it got misplaced but did he receive an invite. Be prepared though. My son has very bad ADHD and has to take medicine during certain time of the day and at night to sleep. Because of this the parent of one of his best friends from school ( a woman I actually know pretty well) didn't invite him ( I found out later through other people) because of it. If she acts like this then maybe say something like oh well I know a bunch of kids can be a handful would you like for me to come and help with the kids. That way if she thinks it's something she can't handle then she has the option of you being there. I hope all goes well. If he didn't get the invite see if you can make sure the other kids don't mention it. If he doesn't know that about it then it would be the best thing.

I wish you the best of luck and just make sure to hold your head up high and if she is just being a jerk then rise above and know that there are people out there that just don't understand. Doesn't excuse their actions but gives you the right to be the a better person.

Parents can be harsh just as much as kids these days. and if every single other child recieved an invitation and your son didnt, then that wasnt a mistake, and it didnt "get lost". Its hard to believe how parents can be. They dont understand that they like there schoolmates and have fun with them, but some parents discriminate just because they might be sick, or different from them in their world.

I would still ask, cause the lil boy told your son he could come, she should be an adult and have no problem with it, but ask nicely, that you just want to be sure. If she says something or makes an excuse, well you have your answer. But as mean as parents can be, dont punish your son's friend for his mothers stupidity.

Most schools forbid parents to hand out invitations to parties at school unless the whole class is invited... for this very reason. While I would say, rise above it... the child already asked your son to go, so I would call up mom and say something like, "Johnny was so excited when Billy asked him to his birthday party the other day, so we were a little confused when he didn't get an official invitation. Could you clear this up for us?". Don't point the finger or chew her out, give her a chance to explain herself before getting defensive and protective... then act accordingly when she tells you what's up (whether that means, saying "I'm glad is was a misunderstanding and he was meant to receive an invitation" or "You cow, my child is just as entitled to friends as yours is no matter what his challenge")

If you think your son will want to go, I would ask about it but kind of play dumb like I didn't know all the kids got an invitation. ... I'd call her and say "My son said he is invited to your kid's party, but he didn't bring home an invitation. ... I just wanted to check and see if he's supposed to come or if this is more of a close friends & family thing."

Yes, that is kind of a dishonest way to go about asking. And it is an open invitation for the other mother to lie to you. But at least you won't have to worry about if you are guilting her into inviting your son. ... If ALL of the other kids in the class got an invitation, your son's may have just gotten lost. But I know that last year I only sent out invitations to the half of my daughter's class that she played with most. Reason: I couldn't afford to feed & entertain 20 kids!

I would usually advise to ignore this type of thing. Your son won't always be invited to everything. However, I find it absolutely cruel to invite all but one child in the class. If truly everyone else has been invited, I would ask her. Casually say to her that your son mentioned this party and the verbal invitation, but that you haven't received a written invitation. It could be a mix-up, and a formal invitation will be extended immediately. If it's intentional, it lets her know that you're aware of her bad behavior.

well have you thought that maybe she felt he didnt need an invite cause their just that much of good friends she just assumed you would come anyway dont get upset maybe try asking her what to bring to the party your son said he invited him and if she gets upset or makes and excuse then theres your answer

I think you should ask. It can't hurt anything. And it will only make you feel better to know that maybe it was, in fact, a misunderstanding. Maybe his invite fell out of the pile. It's hard to say. Definately ask the mom, but make sure you're comfortable and not upset when you talk to her.

it depends.

option 1. you ask her and she tells u it is her child and her wish and her choice to invite whoever she wants and you are nobody to tell her what to do and how to live her life amat it is a democracy. you could further on condemn her for the discrimination she has done and make it a big issue.

this will ensure that in the future everyone else will invite your son but maybe without wanting to.

option 2. let it go and rise above it as you say and in the coming days throw a party for your son and invite all including her son and that will be like a slap on her face wihout even touching her showing her how petty she is and how graceful you are.

you decide.

i would ask her it was maybe a mistake, my son is 7 years old he has asperger's and adhd and although he wouldn't go to any of the party's i would have been upset if he was the only one not invited .