Married people.....what would you do in this situation?

Here is a great tip that works for a lot of women in your situation: Ignore him. Okay, not completely. What I mean is, start doing things you love to do, make some friends, take up a hobby and spend lots of time doing it instead of spending extra time with him (or complaining to spend time). Act really happy all the time, smile a lot and be polite and positive around your husband no matter how badly you want to complain to him about how lonely you are. Take care of any thing he needs but aside from that always act too busy. When he calls, say that you can't talk long because you are busy. After a couple weeks of this he will start to wonder what's up and why you stopped asking to spend time, and wonder why you are so upbeat all of a sudden. Then he will start paying more attention to you and he will also think your new upbeat self more desirable to be around.

Now if this fails, then at least you have gained some new hobbies and made some new friends and possibly got out of depression so that you can decide what you want to do with your marriage. Good luck.

Marriage is a two way street, but sometimes we've got to give a little to get a little. Obviously your husband isn't going to be the one to give, so you start.

Covertly ask for when the next night he's free for, and make dinner plans. Let him know once they're booked, and tell him that he's taking you to a movie after dinner, once you're at the restaurant. Be positive, not nervous, and make all the conversation. Be confident and you might just get somewhere. Maybe he won't turn around straight away, but he'll probably enjoy a couple of dates after awhile and it can become part of your routine. Try going out more with friends as well.

You need to have a life TOGETHER, after all, you're married! Leave the kids with a babysitter and get out and enjoy yourselves together.

By the tone of your question, it seems that you are an Indian wife. Look dear, I feel very pathetic about such situations. I fully understand how much Indian wives sacrifice for the sake of their families.

Now I have two solutions for this situation. First, how much your husband loves the children? If he loves them too much, then, leave them with your husband for a few days and goto your parents place for someday stating that you are tired with this mechanical life. When your husband starts doing the daily household jobs then he will realise that how much a woman has to work at home. Then definitely he will start caring for you.

My second opinion is that if your husband is not caring for his children also...then why the hell you are spoiling your life with him. God has given you one life and certainly you have got an right to enjoy it. Openly talk with your husband that "Do you have time for me or not?" simple "yes" or "no". If he says "no" then clearly ask him to **** off and inform him that you are going to live your own life.

Finally, try to solve this problem without breaking your family. (if possible)

All the best.

Go hang out with your friends, and make him watch your kids for an evening out of the week. If you don't want sex, just companionship, look to your friends for it.

If he refuses to watch your kids, take them to a baby-sitter and make HIM pay for it.

I REALLY appreciate the fact that you care enough about your kids to not split up your family. That is the worst possible thing you could do for them. I would know, my parents are divorced.

dont give into your immature temptations, your baser nature and your self nature too. you have children. be grateful and thankful for what you do have.

as yourself this, why do you feel the need to spice up youre entire life with a new man or love relationship. maybe you are not thinking creatively about your life. theres something called transmutation of sex energy that you could be putting into other projects, not just your reporductive system. like crafts, painting, reading, volunteering, decorating, trying new things, developing other hobbies. theres a big wide world out there. the quality of your life isnt dependant on your spouse or the sex you have. and if it is, thats prretty said. open your eyes.

not to mention, theres tons of men out there. most are just awful. they will just enjoy your body, since youreolder with kids now. and you will feel used. and someof them might not even want you. they might want your kids.

i would start going to church if i was u.

Find time for you and find new friends. I would even go out to a club or some social place where people hang out at and get to know. Try going to parks just to clear your mind. I normally do that and go to the malls just to see new faces and sip on a cup of late`. It is ok to meet someone for social but be careful not to give in to temptation.

There must be people at the place you work daily, that you can be friends with. Or perhaps there are some support groups in your local areas. However, It seems that if your marriage isn't working, then you should be making a plan for the future for you and your children......rather than thinking about socializing........ :(

Hi, I think that some of the people that answered have real good point. especially, the ones that are advising you to make your self look busy; or get busy. I don't think you are looking for a fling like some people thought; otherwise, you wouldn't be asking for help, its real easy to fina a botty. anyways, I kind of relate with you. The only difference is that I don't have kids. I think it is real hard, one feels very unappreciated. I have actually told my husband that if I was allowed to have a lover to use him for company (and why not, good sex) our marriage would be perfect. I love him, hes d perfect guy for me but as much as i try to care of his heart, he should too. but i guess i live in a disney story. Try what they said, get busy. If he still don't fulfill you, oh well. i refuse to believe that threre's only one soul mate for each one of us.

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If you don't want a divorce, turn to him for companionship, not another man. Counseling. You just need to put the spark back.