LADIES AND MEN-ROMANCE QUESTION:I ran into my ex yesterday (from 20 years ago)?

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I had been searching for him for YEARS (with no luck) and I saw him while we were out shopping at a department store.  I did not say anything because I was with my fiancee and new baby.  I know he spotted me too because he was breaking his neck to look at me.  I feel like such a jerk for not acknowledging him.  I would dump my fiancee in a heartbeat and marry my ex if I could.  Will I ever get the chance to find him again now?  How can I try searching for him?  I have done computer searches with no luck finding a phone # or a valid address.  I really love this guy (I love my current beau too but it's not the same as your high school love).  Do you think I am being selfish?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you are living in the past.  I think you want "what could have been".  If you'd drop everything you have now for a chance with your ex, then something's not right anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot can happen in 20 years.  How do you know your ex isn't a total jerk these days.  You have a fiancee and a baby.  Life is good, don't rock the boat.

fokker - it&#39;s an airplane! · Answer

yes - you are being selfish and living at the mercy of your perceptions of how great he was 20 years ago - when you were both young and dumb and different people than you are now.  Do your fiance a favor and let him know you aren't ready for marriage.  Good luck.

Justin K · Answer

ts not more of selfish but a little more desperate. You have a relationship right now not to mention he is your fiancee. It seems you don't even like this guy your going to marry. Why you ruin something that he worked for just to go hook up with his ex. You seem to .... i can't even think of 1 word to descrbe it.

Anonymous · Answer

I do think you are being a little selfish. It sounds to me like you can't find your high school sweetheart and your fiancee will have to do. You need to decide whether you love him more than this high school sweetheart and set your priorities straight.

Anonymous · Answer

yes you will be selfish if you followed your heart, because you will destroy your current fiancee emotions. you and your ex were not meant to be other wise you would not have broke up from the first place.

connie c · Answer

Hot Mama, could it be you are just infatuated with just the idea of the love you once had, and forgetting why you separated in the first place? Please keep in mind people change over the years, and although he may have been curious as to gawk at the time , he may have a different agenda.

Forever in Cali · Answer

if you were suppose to be with your ex you would be with him... i personally think it is time to try and move on and continue your life with your fiancee and your child... unless you can only have ONE love in your life you will never be able to live completely happy... and i am sure your fiancee loves you very much... leave the past in the past.... time to move on into your future

Isaac R · Answer

Your Fiance deserves better than to be engaged to a woman who would dump him in a heartbeat. You owe it to him to break up with him. As for what you should do with yourself, I have no idea. I just feel bad for your current man.

blt830 · Answer

He's your ex for a reason.  If the relationship was so great then why aren't you two still together?  Get over him and focus on your new life.

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LADIES AND MEN-ROMANCE QUESTION:I ran into my ex yesterday (from 20 years ago)?

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