What the (bleep) happened?

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Over two years ago I started dating a guy from work.  We were very much in love and for the first time I was very content and happy in a relationship.  However I had some concerns about our long term compatibility.  We ended up breaking up because of those incompatibilities and I was heartbroken.  A few weeks after the breakup he wanted to work things out, which I tried but after being so hurt, I couldn't do it. We remained friendly at work and often talked and laughed together. Months later at work, he told me that our break up was the biggest mistake he ever made, he had lost the best thing that ever happened to him and he was still broken up about it.
At the time I had moved on and told him everything happened for the best and I felt certain he would realize that too.
A week later, he stopped talking to me, laughing with me, looking at me, and just acted like he no longer cared about me at all and wouldn't tell me why. I ended up quitting the job and moved on from the company.
I still wonder what happened and why he became so distant all of a sudden. 

I also still have dreams of him and although I am engaged to a wonderful man, I miss certain aspects of my relationship with my ex and am always wondering...

What the (bleep) happened?
Any ideas?
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Feyhera · Accepted Answer

All of us react differently to having our hearts broken. I think he simply couldn't bear being involved with you in any way after that last rejection. I'm sorry about what you feel you've lost by not keeping in touch with him. But try to remember the good times with him with a smile in your heart and congratulations on your upcoming wedding! 

Peace and good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

There are a ton of good guys out there, but lack of longevity out weighed everything else. I think you're smart for moving on and finding the one who is right for you. You may miss certain aspects of your ex because he was a good guy, but just keep in mine he was not the good guy for YOU. Remember the incompatibilities - those will not change. Would you wanna be married to a man that you both had to readjust a lot of who you are just to be able to get along in the long run? I think he was nice to you and getting along with you hoping you'd change your mind, but since you didn't fall for the bait, the real him shined through.

Princess · Answer

You let a good guy and you regret not taking that chance of getting back with him. You should leave the thoughts alone and remember your with a guy, just ask yourself do you love him or the ex? Move on from there.

Anonymous · Answer

You rejected him. He was making an attempt to reconcile yet again and you said no this time. Apparently this was way too much for him to handle properly. This doesn't help you put closure on the relationship and is causing you to think about him. The dreams are simply from that - if it's on your mind, you'll dream about it.

warneal69 · Answer

God,  I love it when a question comes along that answers itself.

"At the time I had moved on and told him everything happened for the best and I felt certain he would realize that too"

Well,  sounds like he has.

Alex A · Answer

he must have been deeply in love with you to the point where he couldn't have just half of you. he wanted the whole thing. he loves you too much to just be friends. he wants to know that the relationship is going somewhere again because he misses you.

? · Answer

You probably really damaged his ego when you told him you had moved on and didn't want to be with him anymore. His pride also probably prevented him from staying in contact with you afterwards; he felt like since you didn't want him anymore, it would be damaging to his pride to be friends with a girl who was not interested in him anymore.

Boys have fragile egos; his was probably just a tad damaged.

Anonymous · Answer

Money was more important than her maybe.

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