Can we "crazy people" date normal people? Or should we stick to our own kind?

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I have clinical depression and have for years.  I've never been hospitalized for it though, and most people wouldn't know I have it if I didn't tell them.

So I just got home from a mediocre date with a guy who turned out to be bipolar and maybe schitzo, and has been hospitalized.  If he hadn't told me I would have just assumed he was a little weird with a lack of social graces.  

I didn't feel an attraction to him, but it made me wonder.....should I look for a date that has mental illness or a "normal" person.  Anyone had experiences either way?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

imho you're labeling or looking too much into this. you can date a person regardless.

Jody · Answer

I definitely think it depends on the date - the person. I don't advertise and I usually don't have a need to disclose on a first date whether or not I'm 'crazy' and I wouldn't expect someone else to. I don't want it to be a big issue either way, for them or me.

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years does not have a mental illness. Nor has he ever judged me.

Francine Frensky · Answer

You can date who ever you feel comfortable with.  I agree with you that from the start that you must tell this person you have a condition like for you.  You would say "I have depression" it is good to open up as you start to build trust.

Myself  I am dating a man who has Narcissitic Personality Disorder.   I have read up on the mental problem and seen what the signs are.  There is heaps of other qualities that I love about him and he is intelligent.   Except when he is cross with me or starts telling me he created or came with the concept for famous tv shows I know it isn't him personally it is his mental condition.

Good Luck.

Cher Schroeder · Answer

I've been around atleast a hand full of mentally i'll people and the thing is most of them do not take there medicine on a regular basis. So, for me personally I would date what they call normal people. But, it's your decision. My advice to you would be to look these mental illnesses up on the internet and see for yourself. Also, the better you start feeling about yourself, better the people you will attract.

thebtpyoda · Answer

i don't think ur crazy just bc u had depression.  i think anyone can date anyone if they have an attraction and they connnect.  plus a crazy person as u say and a normal person are opposites and u know opposites attract lol.  i don't think u should look for a guy based on his mental health.  u look for a guy, like i said, that u like on the inside and out.  if u ever want to talk i'm online on aim or yahoo messenger and my screename is TheBTPYoda.

happygolucky · Answer

Why don't you look for a date who you find attractive???


Also seek counseling and help if you do in fact have clinical depression

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