Is it normal to "take a shot" (of vodka), every time my husband says "I love you"?

Opiates work even better!

Maybe what you want to hear is in the last paragraph I have written but please read the rest of what I have written too. This woman has kicked him into touch. (she is in control) She has someone else (an added attraction to him he wants it all) He has not responded to her e mail. he is thinking or licking his wounded pride. Ok so after all of the questions.....time to make up YOUR own mind. No one here can accurately predict what he will do in the future and what he really felt for the woman. So you either let the whole thing drop and see what happens as in does he find another. This sadly means you will work yourself up looking and worrying because You are not going to believe him whatever he says. Or you break free and start live and build a life. Or you go counselling with him........or without him and work through it there. You say you can cope if he loved her....I don't think you are coping with this fact and keep posting to get the answer you think you want which is stay with him he loves you. How can anyone out there in cyber know this. If you believe it then make the effort to trust and believe him. He is weak and confused right now and he is certainly in lust.(or imagined love) So maybe if you want to show him another side to you.....get inventive in the boudoir once you him back in harness. I don't know what you will do long term but please think what is best for you. Ok all of that said I did work at a marriage after such adiscovery.......I had him sit down and write her a letter in front of me......I made sure he hurt her. She was the intruder. The other woman in your senario is certainly not squeaky clean in this and has encouraged him recently to communicate by not blanking him. Tell him you need a grand gesture of re assurance or you walk. That's what I did. We are ok now but he knows now I would tolerate nothing else. She is history and was in the end humiliated. AND I am very certain I would not stay a moment to listen if it repeted.

You are shameless and that is a good thing.

Shines light where some are uncomfortable to look

Had an alcoholic friend that said "alcoholism is a disease and woman are the carrier"

fact is if you want to be his excuse to drink....he will let you

If not he will find another excuse......if he wants to drink

sooner or later 5 won't get it done and he won't be able to function until his BAC "blood alcohol" is over dui limit 24/7 DUI being .008

He will need to stay like 1.2 or 1.5....if he doesn't his heart , lungs even his bowels won't work right

In other words he will need to be half drunk by ordinary peoples standards just for his body to work right

That is no big deal if you drink in the morning

and can bring some to work

And happy drunks are better when they are drunk

Ever know a mean drunk? They can be them selves better too.

So if your OK watching him go from social/occasional drinker to problem drinker

to chronic alcoholic...till it kills him

Good for you

5 every night for you and him to get along is great progress

Ever meet someone who drank themselves to death a year or 2 before they died?????

Ever drink with them???? Proud times

Like when you drink with someone and and find out they left you and blew their brains out....Good people interactions...Uplifting

Something to raise a glass for

I was old before I ever got a DUI...my BAC was 3.6

and I passed all the road side sobriety test didn't know I did or where I was....I didn't even act drunk

I am real proud of that...4.0 is fatal for a sissy light weight like your husband....5 silly mixed drinks

My uncle Dave drank a half gallon almost every day....I could keep up with him

If you are gonna drink don't waste your time messing around

Be all you can be.

I am a happy drunk too...grew up around some mean one's

That was a hoot....good times fond memories

I know a song called "3 Sheets in the Wind"

About a relationship like yours ending

a line goes "Lust and co dependance they make a nasty pair

get close to that fire and your gonna burn some hair"

I wish you luck and hope you never have to smell hair burning

If you start drinking too...the smell may not bother you.

That could be your excuse

I’ll tell you, I have the same problem but inside out. My wife sat me down last night because she wanted to “talk”. I needed a belt just to make it to the kitchen table.

She laid this garbage on me about, “you never say anything nice to me.” and, “you don’t talk to me, you just...blah blah treat me like a piece of meat.”

I said to her, I told her, “baby, we just ruined yet another mattress because I made you…you know, all night- over and over.”

Then she comes back with this line of crap like, “sometimes a girl likes to hear you say it.”

My GOD, ‘Toast, I just about towed back on the whole bottle after that.

I said, “Look, when you’re screaming and writhin’ and I’m all up and in there you don’t really want me to stop and start reading you French forms, do ya?”

Then you know what she did? She slapped me, right in my face and started cryin some trash bout I mine as well stick that bottle...

I’ll tell you, by now I’m ready to hit the bar but before I do I feel like I’m, you know, “entitled” since I had to sit there and listen to her all that time. So I go in there and she’s all cryin’ and raving on and on about tenderness and what not.

The extremes of some people, I just don’t get it.

All simmers down to an answer of: yes, it is quite normal.

You, JJ and your vodka and cranberries, I gotta get me some of that. I can't help but say, though, vodka helps take the edge off. A couple of Bloody Mary's went over great this weekend, plus some pina coloda's.

I usually have a beer every time he mentions sex. Is that the same thing?

I usually like my husband a LOT better after a few drinks too. I asked a Q last week about how much I'd have to drink before the beer goggles would take effect and I would like him again...unfortunately it got deleted.

Hmmmm...now I know why Andrew is up to six drinks a day. That's about how many times a day I tell him I love him.

Are you having to drink in the mornings? Just wondering how well vodka goes with eggs.

I think you have an unhealthy marriage and need to learn how to deal with his codependency without liquor, or break it off. You're heading down a destructive mode for yourself. I'd hate to see you destroy your own self because he drives you bonkers.

Alice some men are just plain ol clingy they are outside the limits of giving love attention they have psychological issues with abandonment. if you wish to live with other peoples issues then do so, but most of us don't.

note: stop insinuating tectonic is ugly you all know full well she's very very pretty and you are just angry about what she is doing with the liquor and taking it out on her to make her feel low as you can make her feel...that's pathetic! tech you're gorgeous so don't listen to these morons!

Better you take a shot of vodka than to take out a Shotgun.

I personally do not see an issue with your drinking, as long as the drinking does not interfere with your sexual pleasures then all is well. Of course you can always fix you hubby drinks along with yours, then when he passes out, you can call all of us to come over and really have a party.

Man i never heard of that before if my wife had to take shots of vodka every time i told her i loved her i would take the bottle and smash it across her face you dirty little whore.... lol Jk i would prolly end up leaven ya and then get drunk a F#ck someone pretty hot..