Need some advice, no smart booty comments though please?

Your husband needs to grow some balls and step his foot down telling her to stop calling him. The kids are grown and their should be no reason for her to call. You are on the right track for the phone records and certified letter. I suggest you do the following:

1) Send another certified letter 60 days or more past the first one stating something like, "We asked you not to call us any further, yet you did on X, X and X days."

2) Get a recorder and start recording the phone conversations

3) Go to the police station and have BOTh you AND your husband file a restraining order against her.

Look, don't end a marriage because this is all fixable. Plus it sounds like he isn't a bad guy, just a wuss (sorry, but true) Just start taking the legal approach to it now. I wish you the both of luck.

PS: Please break up your issues a bit more next time into paragraphs cause it would have made it easier to read. Not trying to be smart, just it makes it easier for people!! :)

Your husband needs to tell her to not call anymore or you can just tell her yurself on the phone. Then. If she doesnt comply send a certified letter. If she still doesnt comply tell her that if she does not stop harrasing you and your family that you will file a restraining order with the authorities. Do NOT be rude or say curse words or ANYTHING which she can use against you. Be very mature and FIRM about it and be the bigger person. If she still doesnt understand you need to talk to the cops as this is unnecessary harrassment.

Your husband might have a hard time talking to her so dont be too hard on him but tell him your concerns and see how he takes it. if he is supportive then it means he is on yourside. otherrwise maybe he isnt loyal to you.

Hard to believe some of the medical questions people ask here instead of seeking answers on any of the many medical web sites or what ever happened to going to a doctor. Imagine getting hit in an eye with some harsh cleaning chemical; waiting about 24 hours and then instead of seeking real help; posting a message here asking what to do? I can surely understand some of the harsh responses I've read.

File for a restraining order; then you can call the cops if she keeps contacting you.

Get a phone with a caller ID. Don't answer if the number is hers or if you don't recognize the number.

Get rid of the home phone line altogether, just use cell phones. Same rule applies - don't pick up unless you know who's calling.

HI, first of all thanks for giving your opion about my delema, I really hate how they think they still have all the right to run there ex life, No he does not have any child from her, thanks god for that, do not give up on your marriage, show the ex how strong and willing to commit all the way with or without her, now my bf exwife is really crazy she also accused me of many wrong doing? she has no clue on who i am and what i do from the begining, until she found a letter i wrote to my bf she when't as far as finding out on how my husband had past away...

I'm not married yet, and after you've read my question, haha, who knows if that will happen, but I had a similar issue of my own. My boyfriends ex woudl call and call and call, and he wouldn't tell her to not call. He'd answer and bullsh*t with her about stuff. I was lax in the beginnign b/c he had been close to her and she had hurt him so bad, i felt there was no hope of anything romantic happening. It wasn't until she called claiming he may be 1 of 3 fathers of her unborn child that he finally (thanks to my bitching and moaning) told her enough is enough. AFter that she started going to his parents house and even brought the kid there a few times saying to his father ''oh look at your grandaughter''... lord the drama, i can only imagine your stress level at this point...

i told him eventually, that he needed to tell her to get the hell out of our lives or id be gone. he did finally and i think ESPECICALLY because youre married and you guys took vows, he needs to tell her the same. Its one thing to need to call or talk about the kids, adults or not i think that is someting parents whether separated or not always will need to be in contact over, but the MOMENT a conversation gets negative or loud in anyway he needs to be able to say ''ok im going now, we will try to talk again tomorrow calmer'' and thats it. unplug the phone if u have to for the remainder of the night, or turn the cells off. i know its hard, but its not just him it def is the ex wife too, so u may need to be extreme, WITH his help to get her to get the message.IF you both stay calm and stern i think u can get the message acorss. but he definitly needs to step up to the plate. he may not mean to come across how he is, men do think and act differently, but he needs to understand his lack of saying something even in a firm calm manner is unsupportive to you. you shouldn't have to feel like youve done wrong in this assuming you haven't you know?

and dont feel bad about the murder accusations. Want to hear a story? when i was 16, my dad committed suicide in our house, a reaction to pain pills and alcohol. my mom had been cheating, everyone sorta knew cuz he was the neighbors b/f she was cheating with. after the funeral, the same guy who had molested me when i was a little girl went around my moms town actively telling everyone my mom and her b/f had killed my dad, was stalking our house. my point in this>? people are nuts and jealous and though im not married and may not have as much life experience, i see how nuts people are and you need to keep you and your family safe, always number one. long as you know youve done no harm to anyone, thats all that matters. best of luck!

Get an unlisted number and an answering maching to screen calls with. I make it a point to never argue with drunks or angry people as it is totally pointless.

Go to a service that will block her number or file charges then she will stop!

Why not just get an unlisted number?