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Am i just another good friend or do I have a chance to be her bf?

I am the shy math nerd finally starting to come out of his shell in high school. Not a total nerd, I play club soccer, run, volunteer. Not great at meeting new people, but the people who are my friends know that they can trust me.

She is the social butterfly. Makes friends easily. Knows how to make conversation with anyone. Couple of close friends. Artistic. Good looking. Sadly, she is almost my complete opposite except for a couple of character traits that we share.

Here's my question.

I know she has had several boyfriends, one for a couple of years 6th - 9th grade, but she is single right now. I started talking to her at the end of the school year and I think I have a chance.

However, I also know that she is kind and friendly to Anyone and she is used to talking and flirting with guys on a regular basis.

I took her on a date and it went very well. We laughed a lot and got to know each other pretty well. We hugged at the end of the date(I didn't really push the kiss since it would have been my first and I was still trying to get to know her better)

How do I know if she thinks of me as just another guy(she has gone on dates with so many other guys) or do I really have a chance to be her boyfriend? Are there any things I can look for that could tell me without her directly telling me(which I know probably won't happen)?

Sorry for the long explanation.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    No problem! I found this question very intriguing and i liked reading it =) Okay, first I would love to congratulate you on slowly coming out of your shell ! i know that is very hard to do, and you should be very proud of yourself. also, bravo for giving yourself credit: You DO have a chance, of course you do. no one is out of anyone's "league", if two people like each other, no matter what, they can be together, no doubt. Second, it's awesome that you took her on a date and are trying to get to know her better. Keep doing this, keep getting to know her and building a friendship. Show her that you're interested too ! talk to her often, try and make her laugh, be yourself and be helpful with things she is doing. Smile at her and flirt a little in your own way =) whether that be complimenting her on subtle things, "accidentally" bumping into her or touching her arm or hand, etc, whatever feels right at the time, just be yourself. Now about knowing if she likes you or not, pay attention to how she reacts to what you do. If you "accidentally" bump into her, smile, are helpful, etc, see if she returns the same gestures or if she flirts in her own way, or acts towards you as interested (you'll know, you won't have to question it). So take your time, don't rush things. The best things come with patience and time. "Rome wasn't built in a day" ♥ Good luck =]

  • 1 decade ago

    long explanation are sometimes a good thing!

    firstly u said u think ur date went well. that's a good thing. secondly screw the other guys, if u constantly worry about them then u'll never get anywhere this is about u & her, not u, her & them!!

    there is nothing wrong with being a nerd i was a nerd at school and most of the time i spent on my own, but this didn't stop me i now have a group of friends and the guy of my dreams. u need to talk to her, tell her how u feel, and make sure she understands that u want to move ur friendship up to the next level.

  • Lora
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Well you know for sure that she likes you if she went on a date with you and all seemed well. Why dont you ask her out again and let the relationship build within it's own time. Just dont push or be too clingy. Show her that you are the guy for her. Treat her well and be sweet to her. Good Luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    She sounds like the girl who any guy would be lucky to date... which means guys are always flirting with her. i think you have a shot because you were easy with her... didn't put into kissing her which might actually be a little change in her. she might like a guy on the more sensitive side. and you said that you made her laugh... and if you can make a girl laugh you can get to her heart. my advice? send her a cute text just saying hey i was thinking about you... something simple and cute. don't push the relationship... but don't get to the point where she just thinks as you as the "fall back guy"

    hope it all works out =)

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  • 1 decade ago

    Its okay i like explanations it helps to answer the question better. Well you may want to take the next step before someone else grabs her up. Tell her you may want to be more than freinds in the near future. You guys may have something going but take it slow just make sure you tell her as soon as possible that you might want to be more than freinds int he near future. Talk to her you seem comfortable around her this could be a part of the "coming out of your shell" process.

  • 1 decade ago

    ask her on a second date, ask her more personal questions then, like what she feels about you. multiple dates usually lead to a boyfriend girlfriend relationship.

    most girls will give off signs that they like someone. some will blush when a guy they like touches them or gets close to them, if she bats her eyelashes at you then she's flirting, if she asks you certain questions then looks at you with an expecting yet hopeful kind of look, she's serious about it (so don't make any jokes then), if she gives you an angry or hurt look then you've said something to offend her, if she looks away suddenly when your eyes meet then she's shy, maybe even likes you.

    hope i helped

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well if she went out with u, u DO have a chance.

    um, signs that she likes u could be

    - u catch her looking/staring at u

    - she finds excuses to be closer to (or near) u

    - ur not the only one starting the convos, she does too sometimes

    just b urself, n if she doesnt like u for that, shes not worth it.

    and it doesnt matter that ur complete opposites to her,

    im REALLY loud, n i LOVE shy guys.

    hope i helped and good luck with her!

  • 1 decade ago

    Well, it seems like you have a nice shot. Just try your hardest to get her and don't worry if she doesn't like you. You need to go out and/or at least ask her if she likes you. Because you being a nerd(not that I know) is bad...

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