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I just found out that a guy friend of mine that has been texting me is using me. The problem is I work with him, so how do I say goodbye to him? This is serious as I dont want to lose my job. I thought he really liked me and come to find out he doesnt. Please help me. Thank you.

This year I am not going though because I have a previous commitment. I feel bad that I cant go but I think it's best anyways because dont you think it's stupid to go just to look at him once a year? Sry had to vent.

My birthday is next week (Tuesday to be exact) and I was hoping that a certain someone would remember. I am not looking for a gift from him, but just hoped he remembered and for some reason I dont think he is going to remember. Should I tell him my birthday is coming? I just hate telling people because I want them to acknowledge it on their own.

I am an older woman and single looking for an older guy. Does anyone have any ideas where I could meet someone, not for a one night stand, but someone that would be looking for a relationship. Thank you for your answers.

This guy is texting me every day as I mentioned, no real conversation, just once in awhile he will say "Hope you had a good day." I see him through my job a couple times a week but he never brings up us getting together but still will text me. I am very confused because I have always thought that when someone likes you they want to spend time with you. Am I wrong, am I overthinking this? Please be kind and I appreciate your help. TY

We've known each other for a few years and just started getting close since January of this year. He use to text me all the time and always say sweet things to me. Now he just will text good morning and good night with the X's and the O's and still calls me hon now and then, but has dropped the darlin and sexy and has dropped the conversations. We see each other a couple times a week for a short time through our jobs but isnt as excited to see me like he use to be. I really do still like him an awful lot and I do tell him I miss him and he will say he misses me too but still his actions are basically non-existent. I want to know what you think and do you think it's safe to say it's over. I dont want to lose him and I dont want to ask him because I dont want to push him. Should I just back off completely? Thanks for your help.

He will text me in the morning or afternoon sometimes and say hello or ask how my day is going, but doesnt carry on a convo. Then he will always text me gnight with X's and O's, but most of the time will just say gnight and again not try to carry on a convo. Our texting use to be more frequent throughout the whole day and night and he would call me sweet little names and tell me how he wanted to cuddle with me. We did get together once many months ago, we've kissed but we have not had sex, which I am okay with. But I dont understand how he will just text mornin and night with X's and O's but never really find time for me. What do you think? Do you think he is just trying to fade out but doesnt want to hurt me? Or circumstance are preventing him from going any further? Thank you for your help.

I usually buy my best guy friend something really nice for his bday and christmas, but a lot of times it is usually something he can use and is practical, SO this year I want to get him football tickets to his favorite NFL team. I know they can be pricey but I want to show him that I want him to have a good time on his bday. Do you think that would be over the top or would he really like that?

I asked him a question and he said probably not. I know it sounds negative but why not just say no?

We are friends and we have kissed. We still text hello and gnight and how are you, hows your day going,etc....but not anything else. I tell him I miss him and want to kiss him more but he will just say, uh huh or oh yes, me too, but it never goes any further. I dont want to push him but I want him to take the lead now. What should I do? Talk to him or end it?

He will text me everyday, as if he is checking up on me. He usually only saids hello and sometimes will ask me how my day is going. Then at night he usually texts me again to say goodnight, but rarely does he really try to carry on a conversation. We are friends but I dont see him much...he is always busy and has family obligations. He does kiss me sometimes when he sees me. He use to text me more often and he use to stay on the phone with me for longer periods of time too. Im not sure what to think. I am thinking that it is not too good because wouldnt he want to see me and spend time with me if he really liked me? I know I probably shouldnt even be confused over this but I really like this guy a lot and I dont want things to end between us. Please give me suggestions on what I should do. I dont want to ignore him, but should I talk to him and ask him or just go with the flow? Thank you for your help.

I am in my 50's and I do not frequent bars. I mostly work (in a public place but dont meet anyone there), and I was wondering what is the best way for a woman of my age to look for a good guy....Ive had my share of bad boys and bad relationships so I want someone that is going to like me for the person/woman that I am and not some guy that just wants to sleep with me. Appreciate you answers.

Say she is older like yourself, been married and divorced. She is a hard worker and she prides herself on being independent because she likes the feeling of being able to handle things on her own as it is a self satisfying feeling. She's got a big heart and would do anything to help the people in her life. She likes to keep a clean house and make things look nice, but she is far from being materialistic. She likes the simple life as far as just taking a walk or being outside...she's very down to earth and pleasant to get along with. She has a lot of manners and will always say thank you, even for thinking of her and buying her just a small candy bar (even a mini size one). She doesnt expect anything and will be a loyal friend to you first so you know you can trust her. She doesnt want to just hop in the sack with you, even though she thinks of it because she wants you to know that she only wants that if you really love her. And as my question started out....she likes to take care of her guy. SO, what do you think? Would you like and want to be with a lady like this? And she does like to have fun, loves to laugh, and likes light conversation. Thank you for your response. :)

She is really good friends and also works with a guy that she has feelings for. He has reciprocated somewhat towards her, as he is actually the one that started flirting with her and then of course her feelings were mutual so she flirted with him. They've known each other for a few years and the flirting/kissing started about 8 months ago. The feelings have gotten intense so she while in a casual conversation one day, asked him if he was planning on divorcing and he told her that probably wouldnt happen. Since then my friend has realized that she wont ever be with him in the future and all of this for him is just short term. I know that all of you will most likely say that she needs to step away from him but it's not that easy. She works with this guy and her job means everything to her and they are friends and he does claim to have feelings for her, as far as telling her that he doesn't want anything to change between them. Please be kind with your answers. Please offer your imput as to what you would do if you were in this situation. I told her that maybe she needs to have a heart to heart talk with him and let him know that her feelings cannot take a backseat and that maybe she should look for another job, even though I know that can be very difficult for her. Any advice you have so I can help her? Thank you.

I'm just wondering because I am an older woman. I was married for a long time and about 7 yrs. ago got divorced. Ive dated here and there since then but cant seem to find the guy that I am compatible with. I admit I dont go out too much and dont know really where to go to meet someone. I do think if its meant to be it will just happen whether I'm at work, in the grocery store or where ever I may be. I am a good person with a big heart and I am independent as I have always been that way. I believe in relationships being 50/50. I am 5'3" brunette with hazel eyes and not too skinny and not fat. I walk for exercise...just love walking, so I try to stay fit and my job is somewhat physical so that too keeps me in shape. I do carry a lot of confidence and I know what I want and I stick to my guns....Im not wishy washy by any means. So with that said, do you think you would want to approach me or do you think someone would want to approach me? Just curious....thanks.

Why would he text me every night if he is probably not (his words) not going to get out of his other relationship. I feel confused and lost and I dont know how he can claim to care for me and be my friend and how I make him feel good and then he says, probably not and still texts me. I need some perspective. Please help me. I know in my gut it cant be good but I dont know how to handle this anymore. What should I say to him? Please people this is serious...I really need someone to help me. There is no one I can talk. I have to see him through my job so how I am suppose to deal with it without leaving my job? I am just crying over this. Thank you for any help you can give me. I do appreciate it.

Why would a guy still text a girl every day, saying good morning and good night and putting hugs and kisses in the texts if he was just using her for sex? And he has been doing this for at least 7 months every night. He is in another relationship but still will text this girl. Is he obviously not happy in his current relationship and does want the other girl? Is he just doing it because he is bored? I mean, seriously, why would he do this if he didnt want her? Thank you for your answers.

They have been seeing each other for about 8 months. They text daily and have had some moments together but they havent slept together. He tells her he does have feelings for her but probably wont leave his current relationship. She doesnt want to lose him as a friend but she has feelings for him and has hope that things will change and he will leave his relationship. What do you all think?

I see all these questions about using lubricant to make sex better or more comfortable. I have always been able to not use lubricant because I have a natural lubricant (if you know what I mean). My question is, do guys find that bad if a girl doesnt need lubricant because she can get w*t without it?