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I REALLY want my bf to quit smoking. Should I keep on him about it or just let him quit when he's ready?
We've been together for a year and a few months.
He does say he eventually wants to quit, and did attempt it once about a year ago. We are pretty serious -- he wants to move in together (I think I want to wait til we're engaged, tho), and I told him he has to quit before I would marry him or have children with him. Am I being too harsh and putting on too much pressure? I just love him and don't want him to die of lung cancer.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
He has fairly serious breathing problems and uses an inhaler. His Dr. has told him he needs to quit
The reason I won't marry him or have a baby with him is that it isn't healthy for the children, but because he is flawed. Everyone is flawed.
I meant NOT because he was flawed. 2nd hand smoke is terrible for children and pregnant women.
6 Answers
- Courtney CLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
A smoker has to quit when they are ready to. I understand that you love him and only want what is best for him, but he is the only one that can change it. It is not going to make him want to stop if you are constantly telling him how much you hate it. Smoking is the hardest thing to quit, ever! Just be supportive of him and let him know that WHEN he is ready, you are there for him.
Source(s): My bf hates that I smoke, as do I, and I want to quit, but it is just sooooooooo hard. & it doesn't mean that I don't love him because I can't quit yet, I WILL!!! - 5 years ago
If ou are motivated enough you can do whatever you set your entire mind to. The day I found out I was pregnant I didn't even smoke a butt on the way to the store to buy the test. I still haven't and I quit cold turkey on September 26, 2006. I think that quitting was the easiest part for me. Especially the first week. Its once months have elapsed and you get a nic fit and feel the urge. Its important to be strong and set mini goals for yourself. Don't say I am quitting. Say I am not smoking today.
- 1 decade ago
You need to be willing to marry him with all his flaws intact or just end the relationship if you are not will to do this. Because more then likely if he likes you he will quit for you but as marriage goes on he will start again(not intentionally just loss of motivation and stress). I would not stop getting on his case about it but do it to help him not to annoy him be supportive in other words. I have just quit smoking (2 weeks now yeah!) but it is not an easy task at all so just understand that. And understand that he is also willing to marry you with your flaws. Good Luck
Source(s): As a once smoker myself and the brother of the situation that is described. - Anonymous1 decade ago
you can't really make him quit, not if you expect him to stay without smoking. you could make sure he knows that u don't like it and if he decides to stop make sure u are there for him and don't let him quit the quitting.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
You are doing the right thing in persuading him. And you should continue until he decides to stop.
- 1 decade ago
either accept it or leave him, he wont follow orders and i cant blame him because you arent anything special that would allow you to order him around
