How do I tell this girl I don't like to leave me alone?

So two of your friends are "too nice" to her? If your friends aren't trying to get rid of her, why should you take it all upon yourself to do it? You could end up looking bad.

You are acting as if all that matters in this problem is the fact that *you* don't want the girl around: "...should that be my fault? Should I have to spend time with someone I don't like? I'm generally good at letting people know where they stand with me (I'm not very confrontational I just am an easy to read person) but she really doesn't get it."

Your trouble is that you have been trying to get rid of her all on your own. You have to allow for how your three good friends feel about this and how far they are willing to go either to let this girl hang out with you all or to avoid her. If they don't want to take action, then you are unlikely to be successful.

Someone might make a case for showing a little empathy and letting the girl continue to use you as a security blanket, even if you try not to let her know about your other plans. I do understand not wanting to spend time with someone you can't stand, but you are, at the same time, spending time with your friends, so can't you leave the interacting with her to them and maybe choose a seat so that someone else sits between you and her as a buffer?

First of all, kudos to you for writing like a literate person! Shows you have brains.

On to your 'friend.'

Why does she bother you? I mean, if she's not harming anything, why not be friends with her for a while. You would be amazed at how some friendships turn out. Who knows, maybe she'll be your boss one day and you will really regret if you are mean to her now.

I would just continue on as you are doing. If you want to do something with just your other girlfriends politely tell her that you can only bring 2 people with you and *so and so* is already coming.

You never know what is going on in her personal life, her home life with her parents. I would really think hard about it before hurting someone's feelings that badly.

..well this situation should have been handled long ago. Now she thinks she is friends with all and feels accepted by all. Thats not her fault..even if shes unlikable. By not being straight up in the beginning you have cost her and yourselves undue discomfort. So, now it is going to be hard to break away from her and give yourself a little space. Anyway u look at it its gonna be hard on her. What matters is what u do.. not your friends. make yourself more scarce..dont answer texts..have places you need to be. She will eventually get the hint! Be gracious and be honest and tell her you would rather be aquaintances rather than friends. Its no ones fault. Cause she will ask why.. what did I do to make u feel this way. Its on you now..you werent honest in the beginning..you need to be honest now. say u dont have alot in common or you like your space. What your other friends do is thier business and you really dont have control over that..I hope they dont end up being mean to her. I have a neighbor I dont particularly like..pain in the ***..but...I deal Good Luck

What I would do in this situation is to try and get to know her. Although she has eaten lunch with you and your friends for the past year, she wanted to belong to a certain group of people and not feel left out. The next time you and your friends eat lunch, include her in your conversations. It is hard to make friends when a teen is in middle school and high school and everyone wants to feel that they belong.

Before you have lunch with your friends, talk to them about the girl. Tell them that everyone should give her a chance to get to know her and to make sure that she doesn't feel left out. Nobody wants to feel that way, so instead of not liking her because she is a "charity case" and being rude to her, get to know her. Who knows? She may become one of your best friends because they are hard to find these days. Good luck.

First of all, I do think that you're acting a little mean..you don't even know her, how do you know you won't like her?,,, secondly, I think that what you are doing is right(if you really want to get rid of her). Eventually, she'll just give up...it'd get rid of her faster if you tell her straight up, but that's really harsh, it would hurt her feelings, I know you don' t care but put yourself in her shoes, would you like being told that?If you want, send her a letter saying that you would like her to leave you and your friends alone...You know, it's better eating with company than alone, try to understand her a bit and don't get so frustrated, she just wants friends...something that luckily for you, you do have...

If it were me, I would give her a chance and see how she does, if not, then I would slowly stay away from her or introduce her to another friend that I think would be a better match...good luck and remember to be open minded.

Darlin,'

I'm really old, so I know that in the grand scheme of things, the time that you spend with HER is really insignificant!

I can actually remember back to my high school days and had the very same sort of person invade our lunchtable. Some of my friends wanted to be rude to her and tell her to go away! But my Mother had raised a daughter who would not do this!

When you look back on your life as an adult, you will be glad that you were kind to HER! (Believe me! My husband was not as kind to some people in his youth. He agonizes over this frequently. As an adult, he says he wishes that he were raised to be as kind to folks as I was.)

You may see this as the rantings of an old woman. But heed my words! You will be glad in the future if you are kind to HER now.

KARMA! What goes around comes around! "What goes over the snake's back comes under his belly!" ( Mama said that last one!)

Be kind!

Honesty is the best policy!

Just take the girl aside and tell her that you and

your friends don't like having you sit at our table

at lunch uninvited and then inviting yourself to

whatever activity that is planned for the group.

Politely ask her not to sit with you and your friends at school tell her that there are other places for her to sit and have her lunch or whatever.Ask her how she would like it if you and

my friends invited ourselves to whatever activity

she has planned.

I'm sure she'll get the hint!!

I would just have to tell her straight up that I had no desire to be with her or hang out all the time. No matter what you do it will seem mean or you will be unhappy. She might not want to be deemed the school charity case either!

Dude you advised her to go away you on my own. she will. It potential she's no longer desperate and going back decrease back to you apologizing and soliciting for you to forgive her. in case you want her to end "leaving you on my own" you ought to tell her and confer along with her.

puke in her food every day. Eventually, she'll stop sitting with you.