Why does my Iranian sister-in-law hate me?

First. The sister-in-law is jealous of you. That's obvious. She probably knows about the past of you and her husband. And she's Iranian. that means that she hates all Americans anyway. In the eyes of most countries, all Americans are typical Americans. You cannot understand her point of view. She wouldn't want you to. As long as your husband knows how she is towards you, you shouldn't try to amend with her. Anything you try will be twisted and used against you. Your husband and his family know you and love you, all this other heartache is something that you have to bear. Or start a war. And A war withing a close knit family is not a good thing at all. Good Luck anyway.

if she thinks it has something to do with her being iranian and the whole family not being able to understand i will hazard a guess and i could be wrong. Does her family hate Iran, did they flee after the revolution in 1979? I've met cubans who hate castro and cuba because thier grandfather left there. So while they are iranians they may very well have been westernized and hate Iran themselves. she could be the odd one out. maybe she has many iranian or muslim friends, where she got it from not from the familys ideals.

that being said do you hate iran, do you disagree with them? sure you like iranian people just not what they're doing in thier own country as if you imagine them to all be slaves of ahmenijead. i assure you there are conservative iranians who agree with iran and the ayatollah and they go along willingly. So are you like the cuban who left cuba and has nothing but bad things to say about it now? If you go around and find expatriated americans living god knows where, chances are they got nothing nice to say about america or george bush. It's the only thing i can think of and i'm not iranian.

long story short, do you and the rest of the family dislike ahmenijead, do you support revolution in Iran. you think they should rise up and turn iran into a western style country. sure you like to meet people but do you respect thier culture or do you want to change thier culture in some misguided effort to help them?

I'm not Iranian, but I have worked with Iranians and had Iranian friends. Her hatred is not cultural its just the fact that you had a thing with her now husband and maybe he still has a thing for you. And that is her reason for hating you so much. Some of the Iranian co-workers that I had (women) were had to get along with, but after a little while they were really cool. But your sister-in-law has had a lot of time. I think that her husband may still have feeling for you and she may feel threaten.

yes their government are quite close friends if iranian regime does not threat israel never can find excuse to expand it's tiny territory on palestinian soil , look see why there has never been peace even for a month between palestinian and israelis.they are many jewish people in iran as well iranian jew in israel,since the beginning they were closest friends just go through history.israelis built a lot of infrastructures in iran as well Shah of Iran supported them back with oil

She's probably just uncomfortable that you've been with her husband. A little insecurity. The 'cultural' thing is just a way of deflecting from the truth.

Because you're an American, because you had her husband (even though it was way before they met)......who knows.....don't let it get you down. Some people rationalize in their minds how people are without really knowing them or giving them a chance. You tried being civil and talking to her, she didn't give an inch right? Don't catch an ulcer worrying about that simple @ss girl.

Edit - Danny STFU! If you had to listen to people who don't even know you refer to you as an infidel, whore, or devils...what the hell would you think?

Everyone hates its natural

she is the way she is...try living with it

:) question way to long

Some people are just not accepting.

it sounds like she is just holding a grudge against you.