my bf doesn't respect me?

Be STRONG! Fight The Pain!!! This is AMERICA!!!!!

For some reason, this sounds abusive and it angers me. Get a job. Get a life. Get out. No means No and he is no BF is this is not the case. The Army has nothing to do with him respecting you. Words or actions are not going to change his mind either after three years of not taking "No". Quit being a victim and quit justifying his actions. You are 20. There is still time for a good life. Don't stay let the life be taken out of you.

If you can't leave him, you are stuck. He is in the Army and he will not let YOU tell him he's wrong. Suggest counseling. If you have put up with this behavior for 3 years, you must bear a big portion of blame because you have allowed him to disrespect you. If he won't go (which he probably won't) then you are stuck. You can't leave him, you can't change him, you can't do something yourself. You have only two options at that point: Find the strength to leave him (people actually DO leave without a car, place to live, or job), or put up with it.

Girl; You need to lay down the law. Ive notcied that when guys first join the military they are just mean. My big bro for example; he and my bestfriend were absolutly crazy about each other but then he went to BC and came back as a jerk thinking he was just better then everyone. Finally my bestfriend said you know what im done, ill pack my stuff and ill just leave, and he couldnt believe it and it took him a day or two to finally realize he was losing something good.

They are now married and about to have a babygirl.

So lay it down it'll work out

All I can say is that it would only get worse if you continue the relationship. I'm an army wife & used to be a soldier as well & that has nothing to do with respect---there are lots and lots of cases of soldiers being disrespectful to anybody and even abusive. Do whatever you can to get out, as hard as it seems it is still easier to get out of a dating relationship than an abusive marriage--I've been there.

Well, if you had an alternative place to live then I'd tell you to dump him now!

But considering your situation, then you must tell him! He truly isn't worth it if he doesn't respect you! He'll expect you to follow his footsteps for the rest of your life!

Or, what you could do, give him a taste of his own medicine! Don't repsect and see how he reacts.

what does a car have to do with leaving a loser? take the damn bus and keep your self-respect! dump him because he won't change, the abuse will only get worse, and you'll end up having zero self-esteem. find a job and another place to live. guys like that aren't worth the trouble.

im a guy and you need to tell him your not going to put up with this **** and if he still wants you he better start being better about respect and not take you for granted because if or when he loses you he will regret being that way towards you

Its gonna be hard one way or the other...tryign to make it on your own, or living with this loser any longer. You're young enough to ask for help from your parents. If you can't do that, go to a shelter. Don't stay with him for financial reasons!

You need to do what ever it takes to get a way and start over. A woman's shelter can help. And so can a church.

well first tell him how u feel thats the only way to say it.

and if nothing changes, then save up money for a car & dump him