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My best friend or my cousin, what should I do?
My best friend goes out with my cousin. They been going through relationship problems for years now but are currently on the verge of breaking up. She recently confided some information in me that would definitely end the relationship and caused me to lose a little respect for her.
I consider myself a trustworthy person and would hate to betray her secrets but at the same time...I really don't want her to be with my cousin because I love him a lot. I spoke with him and he seems like he is at his wits end. He wants to know what she said but out of respect I didn't say anything. I just told him that he really should start developing a life style that doesn't include her.
It burns me up inside that I am keeping this secret from him. I feel so guilty that I am hiding it. Should I tell him, lose the trust (and possible friendship) of my best friend or keep advising without it?
BTW...They do have a child together.
2 Answers
- Anna ELv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Keep your nose out of it. Tell your friend that you don't want to hear any more about the relationship problem because you are having problems with keeping secrets from your cousin. Tell your cousin the same thing. Then tell them both that you care for them and do not like being put in the middle and then don't allow yourself to be put in the middle.
- 1 decade ago
I agree with the previous poster. There relationship issues are not really your concern regardless of your friendship with them. In addition, they have a child together and I would assume that they will continue to see each other regardless of whether they stay together. You don't know if they break up and if you tell your cousin the secret you could potentially be losing both of them if they decide to stay together. You could be accused of "poisoning" your cousin or trying to change his opinion (not saying you are but it could happen). I would simply be supportive of both of them and their relationship.