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What do I do about this situation?
I am going through a rough patch right now. I really don't want a relationship, but this guy keeps imposing himself into my life. I am a kind person, but this is getting annoying. He is neither my type, nor even someone I could respect enough for a relationship. In my opinion, he is lazy and irresponsible. Now I need to know how to turn him off. (I did not intentionally turn him on. I was just being my normal friendly self.) I have told him how I feel, and he says we are only friends, but he just won't stop trying for more. Should I just avoid him altogether or what? I just hate to be mean, since he really is nice to me. What should I do?
No, he has made it clear what he really wants,. He says he is just willing to settle for friendship, but it is extremely obvious he is hoping for much more.
4 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
You are DOING something by doing nothing...it is working for him..because he is still encouraged. You are really not being as nice as you think you are (sorry, I don't mean to offend you), but you are giving him hope with the way you are being so passive..he thinks he can change you. You need to be firm but assertive and look for ways to grow in confidence so you won't think so much about not hurting him. Believe me, when he gets the message clearly that you are clearly not interested..he won't curl up and die. He will survive and move on. Learn from this. Practice being firm and assertive. YOU let him go.
Source(s): been there, use to be "too nice" still am nice but have learned that guys are not going to die if you are clear with them. - ?Lv 45 years ago
The most effective tune approximately this detailed trouble could be "Hotel California" by way of The Eagles. Still a excellent album--I have an historic vinyl replica that I received for my 14th birthday in (choke) 1977.
- donkeyeyesLv 41 decade ago
Unless he is stalking you, there should be nothing to worry about except you don't respect him anyway so why not take control of the situation and tell him honestly what you think of him and that you have higher standards for people you call and want as friends. That isn't mean. Mean is telling him or agreeing to be friends. Phony.
