Help! I'm married, but looking elsewhere...?

Issue #1

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for two. We were totally happy when we got married we communicated about everything and had sex all the time. My husband was friends with this woman before we were married, but I never thought anything of it because we were so in love and she’s married with kids. So a little after we were married this woman started hanging out with my husband while I was at work at night (I had two jobs). She would tell him how she wasn’t happy in her marriage, stuff like that. I eventually told him that I wasn’t comfortable with him hanging out with her without me and he agreed that he wouldn’t. Then he lied to me (about three times) about seeing her. He even went to her house and lied about it. I honestly thought something was going on. It really upset me and he agreed to leave her alone. Which he did and she moved away (across country).

Issue #2

When we were first together (the first 3 years or so) my husband thought I was the best thing ever. Our sex was great and I was this wonderful person who could do no wrong. Then he started changing. My husband is (in my opinion) borderline OCD when it comes to work. He’s definitely a Type A person. He gets up, does housework, goes to his job where he is on his feet all day working, then comes home and works on the house until bedtime. Seriously...he’s moved and replanted all our backyard plants 3 times in the last 2 months! I am not, nor have I ever been, like that. I keep my house picked up, but he’s just ridiculous. After the first few years he started criticizing everything I said or did. I’m not aggressive enough in sex, I don’t do enough to help out around the house, when I do something I’m not doing it right. Honestly, I feel like I can’t do ANYTHING right anymore. It’s made me depressed and I feel unappreciated. Of course he says it’s all me. I’m not doing enough. I’m not trying enough. I always agree and say I’ll try harder, but lately, just in the last six months or so I don’t give a crap anymore because I feel like everything I do is never enough. I feel like he has no appreciation for me at all.

Issue #3

So after this thing went down with my husband and this other woman something happened inside me. I just don’t feel the same way about him as I used to. I’m not attracted to him ever since that all went down. Plus, the fact that he makes me feel like I’m worthless doesn’t help. Now he looks at me like he can’t stand being around me, but when I ask him what is wrong, or try and talk to him he gets mad that I’m asking. We always used to talk, but now he won’t open up. Although if he did it would be the same thing as always, “You need to help out more around the house.” It’s like a friggin broken record!

Issue #4

Before I married my husband I was attracted to this guy (Mr. X) who happened to be with someone at the time and I thought they would end up get married, plus I was happy and about to be married so I never gave it a thought. Not lying here…if he had been single before I got married I probably would have broken it off with my husband to be with this guy. Anyway, Mr. X and his girl broke up right after I got married (of course). He is friends with both me and my husband, but lately (in the last 6 months or so) he and I have gotten to be closer friends. I really like being with this guy; he’s fun and he makes me laugh. I like talking to this guy, but we’ve never talked about personal stuff…until recently. He’s starting to open up to me about more personal things. I’ve always been extremely attracted to this guy. I haven’t crossed any physical line though. Heck, I don’t even know if he’s interested in me in that way, but we do talk a lot and we text and email each other. I think that he might be interested, but he’s too good of a guy to do anything. So now I think about this guy all the time. I even did a very bad thing. I played my husband's game and told him that I was going to a friends house when I was really going to happy hour with Mr. X and a few of our friends. So now I'm lying.

So I’m confused. I don't know what to do. I'm not physically attracted to my husband anymore. I really like this new guy and my husband is making me feel like crap. What do I do?