How to attract the right kind of guy in college? (Nice guys, I need your help!)?

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Okay, I told myself I'd never do this, but here I am... S&D for the first time, lol.

I'm going to college in September. I've never been to post-secondary (took two years off after high school to decide on a major) and I will not know anyone at my campus.

There's a part of me that's hoping I'll meet my dream guy in the next couple years at college. I have a pretty small dating record - I've had three boyfriends, all of which I've dated for more than a year and two of which I dated for two years plus. I'm currently with my third boyfriend, and though I love him, I'm not sure he's the right guy for me. He's told me if I feel like exploring my options in college to just give him fair warning, which I thought was admirable... and based on who I meet, I might do just that.

Anyways.  Is there anything specific that would attract the good guys? Obviously I don't want to date players or jerks. I know dressing slutty will only attract the wrong ones. I'm looking for personality traits that you nice guys are attracted to, or the ones that repulse you.

Basically, if I meet a guy I'm interested in, what can I do to peak his interest in me, and what should I avoid if I don't want to scare him off?

Any suggestions are helpful. Thank you!

honeybee · Accepted Answer

You should be really involved when you get to college. Join a club (my college as almost 8,000 organizations) that fits your interest. You already know you have something in common! Also try to be really sociable during your classes. Talk to the guy next to you! You can always ask to study together. I find that guys who show up to class and actually pay attention turn out to be really great guys.

Karla · Answer

Knowing what you want in a relationship is the most important. It sounds like you know what you are looking for. Get social! Sit next to the cute guy in class, make small talk, if you find common interests things should just happen. If not, you could always ask if he could help you study at the local cafe. Good luck!

Hakuna_Matata · Answer

In all honesty, it's college. Everyone knows what goes on at college, so it might be a little hard to find exactly what you are looking for. It will take time. But just be yourself. Be confident, and be happy. A good smile goes a long way.

? · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

It takes the right kind of woman to attract the right kind of man. Have confidence and have some respect for yourself. Dont be too clingy and dont get obsessed. Be yourself in order to find someone like you.

? · Answer

Join some activity clubs or volunteer groups. The best guys are active. If you are involved, you will attract similar types.

Dan · Answer

Why the hell would you take two years off to decide on a major? 

I met all of the girls that I was genuinely interested in at libraries, in class, and at the gym. Guys are interested in smart girls who take care of themselves (physically and mentally).

If it took you two years to just decide on a major, then you ought to focus more so on school than meeting guys.

HowFuzzyWuzee · Answer

Just be yourself...
Opposites still attract....:o))

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