Has having a child made you less depressed?

The momentary hugs, smiles, and "wuv-you"'s do make life worthwhile.

The continual overwhelming responsibility and need to respond to the needs of the child can be a heavy load.

Dealing with additional little people's emotions and wants and needs complicate a world I'd thought was difficult in the first place.

If you've had money left over at the end of the week /month - say goodbye to that. With formula $25 a week, Disposable Diapers not far behind,

Daycare can be $1000 a month, when the kids are in daycare they catch every bug that comes along - so you have to stay home from work, losing that pay - a Dr's visit is about $30 if you have insurance, and can be over $100 without insurance + the medicine on top of it. When you want to go out to dinner, figure paying equal to the babysitter as you do for the restaurant.

When you buy a car, you have to make sure there is room for all the kids'

carseats.

Ever try to get through the grocery store with $50 in your pocket, ten minutes on your watch, and 3 or 4 little wiggly voices each trying to get you to buy CoCo Puffs? Then, when you're half-way through the baby throws a screaming-crying fit that could break the sound barrier.

What ever happened to sex whenever? Start with exhaustion, the late hour, job pressures, kids who don't get quiet 'till 10 or 11 pm every night, and the 2 am feeding is coming all too soon. It's called once a week, maybe.

What it all adds up to for the depressed adult - kids are joy & kids are constant work. It's a teeter-totter. Let's just say that life is different - forever! No more easy open road when the work week ends. Now is when you are "on duty" 24hrs a day on the week-end! You're lucky to get a bowl of cereal and a shower, all day long.

The responsibility is there, it doesn't go away

Remember this, depression is quite often the expression of stress overload!

I have 3 kids and They are my reason for getting up and doing things. But at the same time I don't recommend to have a child to make you feel lees depressed. It's more complicated than it seem to have a child. They depend on you for everything. You should be treated for your depression and then take the steps you need to keep your self happy.

I hope the best for you!

i know exactly what you mean, i have began to hate saturday and sunday mornings, with nothing to actually get up for

i see a psychiatrist who had diagnosed depersonalisation

but even though i think having a child would be interesting i am not going to as it would be selfish to bring them in to the world just for my satisfaction

these are just my thoughts to say i know how you feel

best wishes for the future

xxx vici

you can't handel yourself so Genius lets bring a poor totally depend ant on you baby into the world what a great idea can't wait to take care of you on welfare nor worse read about the baby in the paper get help

Please seek help for your depression before even considering children. Children should not be brought into the world to solve their parents problems.