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How should I react to this co-worker/friend? She playfully says "I love you" every time we work together.?

I am single and many years older than this girl who already has a boyfriend. We get along very well and tease each other. I am not completely sure how I feel about this girl and I feel safe only being friends with her. Feedback from other co-workers indicates that she really likes me and that she is also unsure of her feelings. And yet several times on days we work together, she says "I love you," especially after a friendly moment. I think she is just being friendly, but other guys could take it seriously and make a real pass at her. I do not regard her as highly as she does me; myself and most of my other co-workers think she is very emotionally immature for her age (22) - acts more like an adolescent. My question is: how should I react to this comment she makes? Chuckle, smile, remind her of the boyfriend?

Update:

Cooincidentally, today is her birthday.

A very important point: her mother is fiercly protective of her and controlling. She is always with her mother shopping on her time off. At times she can be an emotional basket case; yesterday she cut her finger on the gripper side of the meat slicer, 1/4", (not the blade) and she cried hysterically. I had to walk her up to the office.

I am well aware of the red flags.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You can make a joke of it..like you have said, or say "I love me too"..anything like that

    Or if it is really bothering you, I would suggest you take her aside and nicely say you like joking around but you really don't like her saying she loves you...maybe save that for her boyfriend or her father..LOL

  • 1 decade ago

    It depends. Do you want it to stop? Do you find it inappropriate behavior for work (as I do)? It you want it to stop (as I would strongly suggest you should), do not chuckle or smile or remind her of the BF. Tell her, in a serious tone, that while you get along with her, you find what she is doing inappropriate and you ask that it stop, because this is a workplace and that is not a way to interact with a coworker. If you like your job and want to stay employed, you don't do stuff like that in a place of business. She is young and not too bright, so you need to be very direct. If you chuckle and smile, it completely changes the tone of what you say, and she won't listen. Frankly, she sounds annoying.

    It is not your business how anyone else might take what she does, though her actions could well get her into trouble. The bottom line is that, for people who are confused, emotionally immature, and have BFs or GFs, the best thing you can do is run like crazy in the opposite direction. These people are nothing but a boatload of trouble. You don't want HER getting YOU in trouble, either. Keep the focus on business, and do the mature thing and squelch the nonsense.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Depends on how old you are. You don't want to hurt her spirits forever. I know what your saying though. I don't use "love" very loosely.

    If you are sure about not liking her then say something like "Oh have you and your b/f seen this movie"... or so have you and your b/f ever talked about getting married... take it easy on that one though she may think its an invite if shes "little".

    She needs to be stopped now though because it will get you into trouble weather her b/f finds out or you get a woman and she continues to do so. I hope I've helped! Good Luck!

    Source(s): I'm a girl lol (23)
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you could laugh and say jokingly back "i love you too"

    or smile is fine.

    and catch her off guard once or twice and point out the boyfriend but in a joking way.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Give her some xanax and a few shots of 151.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    kindly remind her of her boyfriend with a smile

  • 1 decade ago

    lol... it sounds like she just wants to be friends, sometimes when girls say "i love you" they just mean.... your funny or your cool or i love hanging out with you.... especially immature girls.... lol trust me i know... i am one.... it sounds like she just wants to be your friend and as for her boyfriend.... dont remind her she has one... she knows

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    One movie:

    OBSESSED

    Have you seen it. Its just she has the sidetrack not you.

  • 1 decade ago

    nail her dude..

    she's doing the 1st move..

    so what r u waiting for?

    opportunity knocks only once..

    NAIL HER!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    get you some dog

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