My dad likes to see me in my underwear?

The following question was posted by a young lady to Yahoo Answers on 2009 07 18. the question was removed from Yahoo Answers, before I was able to add my answer. Not sure why the Question was removed, perhaps to protect the young person submitting the question, but I think the question and answer are important so I copied it and am resubmitting it. I did notice that the style of writing was more adult than I would expect from a 15 year old.

Here is what she wrote

I live alone with my dad. Ever since I was young my dad has wanted to see me nude/in my underwear to check how I was 'growing'. Now I'm 15, he still asks to see me in my underwear ever 2 months or so. He also checks my private areas once a year to make sure I haven't been 'breaking the law'. I used to think this was normal, but one of my friends found out and told me it was weird. Is it weird?

There were several quick answers that said Yes it is weird.

But I think and answer to such a serious question deserves a more thought out answer.

Here is the answer I wrote.

First step

Print out your question and the answers you receive from this site.

Put them in an envelope and write. TO DAD on the envelope.

Step two

Your Dad needs time ALONE to read and think. He needs about 8 hours (preferably 24 hours) to get over his shock that his world has changed and realize that his daughter is now a thinking, acting, caring young adult.

Step three

Your Dad will ask to talk with you. He will apologize and acknowledge that you are growing up and that it is time for him to turn over his fatherly protection to your good judgment.

Step four

The hardest step. YOU now must take over your fathers protection of you and start thinking AS AN ADULT. You have a tremendous advantage and disadvantage by being a young adult in the year 2009.

You have a computer that can tell you everything, truth and lies, that the population of this planet knows. Your ADULT job is to sort through everything you read and determine what is truth and what is lies.

Step five

This is the beginning of your adult life. Time for me to leave you to live your life.

Your father will step back and let your learn to be you.

Your father will now answer your questions truthfully when asked.

Your father will be there for you, to back you up when the world tries to hurt you.

Best of Luck

email me if you need further assistance

Here is the WHAT'S YOUR SOURCE I wrote

Father of a ten year old daughter.

I answered this question for myself long before my daughter was born.

By reading and listening to hundreds of stories of the goods and bads of children growing up.

I am now 54 an investor and writer.

My daughters health wealth and protection are the ONLY things that are of importance to me.

Health = The understanding given to your child of herself and the universe she lives in. Gently and over time showing the good and the bad and explaining the blend of both.

Wealth = Building up the child's fortune. A fortune she can not touch until she has a chance to make her own try at the world. I put my daughter on my payroll when she was three months old. As office assistant and Calendar model for our company calendar. The IRS allows you to build her IRA at the rate of $15,000 per year with almost no taxes imposed. And your tax base is reduced by that same $15,000. My daughter had over $60,000 by the time she was 5. I was forced out of business by over regulation and over government. I retired but the money in my daughters account is hers and hers alone. Her retirement is secure. She will not get any social security, it will be gone by the time she retires but her IRA will by then exceed $1,000,000 just by the rule of 7 and that money growth will be untaxable and untouchable by anyone but her.

Protection = Teach her about the bad side of life.

How to:

Recognize trouble before getting into it

Run if you can.

Fight if you must.

Kill as a last resort.

And know that her father is there as her first defense.