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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

I am desperate..really really desperate?

Last time I had a GF was two months ago..I broke up with her because she always sneaks out of her house to make out with other boys..she even slept with another guy and almost made him go to jail, thus ruining his military career...offcourse, my guardians never approved of her in the first place,they made me break up..partially it was my decision so...

Anyways. I am now in Florida...a great place teeming with many ladies and woman. Before I dated that girl I was single for 4 years...yes I know tragic and sad. Now I fear I will remain single..I have few friends and stuff at church but I just know them...

I am really really desperate, I was a bit chuky..not short and fat but I had a belly lmao...and man boobs -_-, that was when I dated the beautiful hot girl, I was amazed, what are the odds of a beautiful girl dating me? and she had a great personnality..then I realized she was just using me. Now, I lost ALOT of weight..I gained some muscle because I always eat grapefruits and eat only 3 times a day..I swim and workout ALOT just to get a GF..I still have a month left to look sexy and attractiveI need to prepare myself for school...get a job..because I NEED A GIRLFRIEND...it was so long without a girl and now I had one until i lost her..

Thing is, I have the body..but do i have the personnality? im kind of shy and well...quiet because i think I might say something utterly stupid..I always reply people with "oh thats cool" or "For real?"

Its annoying and its a bad habit..every night I dream about kissing a girl or having a girl at my side. Last week I went to church camp and guess what..I did not even get a hug from a girl...damnit im pissed now...

My mom did not allow me to go to the club with my friends(shes christian...so am I) thus ruining my chance to get a girl for the night. I know many of you might think I am shallow or im going to the clubs to make out..well I am NOT shallow and yes I do want to go to a club to makeout..why? because most girls that are pretty are usually the hoes and sluts..its annoying, they are everywhere and they only seek guys that have the looks. Everytime I see a loving couple kissing, holding hands or hugging it pisses me off because I always think..that could be me..but why did it not happen? why am I still single and why am I surrounded by ungrateful girls and shallow idiots?

so I need tips on how to talk and speak to a girl..since I have the looks(confirmed by many)..all I need is the talk. If sluts and whores are all I encounter than that is what I must be in order to win them(no not a man whore but a player). I havent found a decent girl in over 6 years..doubt I will ever find one soon..now give me tips on how to get girls. I am 17 btw..

Im confused, annoyed and pissed..I got a drivers license..I am healthy but everything is just so empty...

Update:

Yea, I suppose so....

Being a player will classify me as an idiot..playas suck and they can all go to hell..

Update 2:

Ok..Yen...Yahoo answers is the only place I can come too..im not going to speak to my mother about my problems and I am certainly not going to brag about them to my friends....

Also, I dont want sex..I just want a girlfriend...I got clothes,food and shelter, thus I dont NEED them...what I NEED is something i dont HAVE..got it?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Well, dude, women mostly care about the feeling of attraction. It doesnt really matter what you look like, it matters how you make them feel. Its all personality my friend. And I dont mean disrepectful bad boy personality. This is just too deep to talk here.

    I can really help you. I just checked if I can email you from here and looks like I can. So check your email I am sending you a link. I assure you, follow up and give it a chance, you will get this handled. Its not about sleeping with women, its about having this handled in life. No need to be at mercy of confusion. Take care.

  • 1 decade ago

    Problems I see:

    * You are 17 (hence, lack of maturity, especially in your mind.)

    * You are asking Y!A for relationship advise. Most people here(not all) just want to snag some easy points or mock others. You might get a serious answers, but it will consists of the following:

    "You'll find someone eventually." Which.... is somewhat true. But Why limit yourself to "someone eventually" when in all honesty you can get someone now.

    * Another problem is you feel you NEED a girlfriend. This is untrue. You do not NEED one. You need food, shelter, and clothing. Though some would argue you don't need clothing, but those are the only needs in life. Maybe instead of sitting here looking for some girl to sweep you off your feet(or man, whichever you are into) you should go out and socialize. Don't blame someone else for your issues. Only you will fix it. (or a big stack of money and some brothels.)

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    LOL. Heres an insight into the life of a blonde: January - Took her new scarf back to the store because it was too tight. February - Couldn't work in a pharmacy because the bottles wouldn't fit into the typewriter. March - Got excited when she finished a jigsaw puzzle in 6 months because the box said "2-4 years." April - Was trapped on an escalator for hours when the power went out. May - Couldn't make Kool-Aid because 8 cups of water won't fit into those little packets. June - Couldn't learn to water ski because she couldn't find a lake with a slope. July - After losing in a breast stroke swimming competition, complained to the judges that the other swimmers were using their arms. August - Told her blonde friend to hurry when trying to get into their locked car using a coat hanger because it was starting to rain and the top was down. September - When asked what the capital of California was: answered "C." October - Hates M &M's because they are so hard to peel. November - Baked a turkey for 4 days because the instructions said 1 hour per pound and she weighed 120. December - Couldn't call 911 because there was no "11" on any of the phone buttons.

  • 1 decade ago

    There are tons of little tips or ideas that might help. But it boils down to relax. Nobody can stand to talk to someone that is falling all over themselves during the conversation. Take your time and gather your responses before you share them. Research a local band and try and go see them. Go to a local art show and chat about how the art looks to you. If you are scared of not having anything to talk about, just think about where you are trying to meet girls. if you are trying to meet them while shopping at walmart, why not bring up the cost of something as opposed to what it cost 6 months ago....see where i'm going with this? find a place you feel comfortable and relax. the best wat to find something is to stop looking for it. and church gatherings are fantastic places to meet girls. and by the way, the girls you could meet and take home from the club are not good girls. they are normally rather loose with their beliefs and such.

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  • 1 decade ago

    wow...thats sad but funny at tha same time

    personally i think florida sucks;; im currently in florida fer vacation

    && yea girls r into looks, i am..but personality also counts

    bein' a playa isnt hard

    but its stupid, && it pisses me off when guys play me

    tha basics are to flirt is all

    be a sweet talker

    dont be corny tho; that just proves ur desperate

    make sure tha girl ur tryin to get wit isnt a whore

    or since ur a christian...get a saved girl

    at least u can trust her some what

    i rly dont kno where u can find girl rly

    but school

    make a lot of friends i guess

    especially female friends..

    thats all i got

    but other than that, u sound lyk a rly great guy :)

    Source(s): i hope it works fer u :D
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Act like a bad boy and hit on sexy slutty women, especially the ones in to goth or emo. It worked for me during dry times I ended up dating 3 at one time until I found a good gf that would respect and appreciate kindness and sincerity.

  • 1 decade ago

    Wow so long but you might just need to go to church and find a decent girl there or just not be so anxious , sometimes girls sense this and it scares them off. Do not try so hard, be macho and act like you do not need a woman , that is what attracts them to you. Do not know why but it does.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think you are more like an idiot than those "hoes & sluts: are. First, respect those girls even if they dont respect themselves. i can assure you one fact. that ALL GIRLS need/want to be respected. next, you don seem to me that you have any big problem. you just need to stop complaining why you dont get any chicks at all.

    i will tell you one easy method.

    1. Be a sunshine person, bright and cuddly

    2. Be cool. really cool.

    3. Be sexy, learn how to treat a girl and rub her the right way

    that is all i'm revealing to you for now. choose one option and stick to it NO MATTER WHAT!

    ciao~

  • 1 decade ago

    Dude, chill out and relax. you are demanding too much at such a young age. i had nothing a decade ago, and pretty much the same story, except I've been involved with some very manipulative vindictive women and i don't wish to repeat any of those experiences.

  • 1 decade ago

    can't you find a nice girl at church...i never thought those words would ever come from me but alas...or just wait til you are done with school, you will probably go off to college or enter the work force, great places for meeting people

    oh yeah and your plan to become a player just to keep up with the chicks you meet, it will never work, you aren't a player and people will have ya pegged as a faker so fast

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