I dont want to loose this one..please help!?

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I don't know if anyone has ever seen the movie "he's just not that into you" But i can relate to it. They say that you can be with someone for a long time and he doesn't want to marry you, and that he will eventually be married, just never to you. I normally talk to guys for a while and they feed me lines like "i need to gain your trust" and what not. They never want to put the label on it, i can be hanging out with them for months, then they meet another girl and a week later they're boyfriend and girlfriend! I understand that I wasn't the right person for them but its just ridiculous.
Ive been seeing a guy for several weeks now,and we've been spending alot of time together. We both agree that we're getting to know each other at this point. I'm trying to determine if there will be a future with us or not. He's a very quite guy and i couldn't even imagine him talking about this kind of stuff,that's partly why i haven't brought it up, i also don't want him to think im rushing things. He's already taken me to meet mostly all his family, and he's definitely a gentleman.
I want to hold on to him the best I can..
I'm okay with him not being my boyfriend right now,but is this going to be another guy who wastes my time? What should i do..or say?

Sunny☮ · Answer

You wont know if he will waste your time or not until you start dating him and start seeing how he acts. He seems like a very nice person and the only way to hang on to him is to be yourself and if hes the right one then youll hang on to him forever. If you feel at some point like you want to move to the bf/gf stage then tell him, dont sit around wasting your time if hes never going to get there, but make sure hes ready. You just have to wait a little bit to see but dont wait forever. If things are meant to be then youll know.

memo · Answer

why are you ok if he's not ur bf u u should care about that the most plus if he's already introduced u to his family then he is 90% ready to have a relationship with u and to hold him with two hands and not let him go the most important thing you should do or the only thing is that u tell him about your feelings towards him quick cuz rite now he might just be thinking that u only want to be his friend and fatser than the speed of light he might meet another girl and soon turn bf and gf so tell him about ur feelings and i am 90% sure he has feelings for you too!! so good luck sis......

Anonymous · Answer

I think you should talk to him about it. Think about what you just said. "He's a very quite guy and i couldn't even imagine him talking about this kind of stuff "...well then maybe its too early to even think about getting more serious. You have to be completely comfortable with each other before you move forward. So its up to you, either you can talk to him and maybe it'll make things more serious and wait a little longer when things get more comfortable and its easier for you to talk to him about that stuff.

hope it works out :)

Anonymous · Answer

if you have meet his fam then he is comfortable with you so go ahead and bring ti up gently like small comments like what do you think about kids, how have you planed your life for the future, and what do you see in the future, and when you go shopping stop and look at rings, or look at wedding dress on line, say it is never to early to plan.

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I dont want to loose this one..please help!?

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