baby shower or no baby shower?

No, you profited from the sale of your previous baby items, it's not fair that everyone has to give you more baby stuff. it'd be different in your last pregnancy was a decade ago. But your first baby is only 2yrs old. If you want to celebrate this baby as well have a little "welcome baby" party but do not expect or encourage gifts. You should have planned better. Just because you have a baby you can't expect everyone you know to start dumping baby stuff on your doorstep. This is your baby you need handle purchasing the necessary items yourself.

Quite frankly you'd be taking advantage of your friends and family if you had another shower with the intent of getting more "free" baby stuff. This stuff isn't free. People are paying for it! If you're that strapped for cash chances are everyone you know is in the same position. Stop trying to profit off of your "friends." You're making yourself sound like trash.

I had a baby shower for all 4 of my children. Like you, I no longer had the previous baby's items when I had the next one. (My 1st 3 children are 5yrs apart, the 3rd one was a girl and then my last child is 7 yrs younger than my daughter.) If people want to give you a shower then let them. The rule is that you don't give yourself a shower. But...It makes less things for you to have to buy. I see nothing wrong with having a shower for all of your children. Is the 1st one the only one who is suppose to get this special treatment? I don't think so. Back in the day when people had a child 10 months to a year apart, you didn't need to have another shower because you still had the baby stuff and most baby items were unisex-white dressing gowns and diapers-but nowadays most people wait a couple of years or more between children, so you end up needing to replace everything from the 1st or subsequent go round. It is not written in stone to have only 1 baby shower. The people who say that you shouldn't have another are either stingy, mean-hearted or just didn't get nice shower gifts themselves. ha ha ha. That is what you have to say to the negative people. Laugh it off and enjoy your Shower or Showers.

It seems like too much, really. I'm assuming, of course that she's having a "traditional" baby shower, complete with a full registry for nursery bedding and a crib and car seat and all that good stuff? Yes, especially if she's had two other showers within the last five years! With that said, where I live, at least, it's not uncommon to have what we call a "diapers & wipes" shower for a subsequent baby's arrival. It's exactly that - a VERY informal get-together for the mom-to-be for friends & family to celebrate the new baby, but there's no registry, and gift giving is limited at best. People generally purchase those VERY VERY basic things - diapers, wipes, onesies, pj's etc., to help the mom-to-be out. If it's that kind of a shower, I don't see a problem with it.

Everyone that I know has always had baby showers for every child no matter if the sex is the same or not. :)

My sister had 2 with her first pregnancy in 03 and she's due in January 2010, and she will be having another one. As well as a lot of my friends on their second, third, fourth and fifth pregnancies. :) Have a baby shower, girl. :) Congrats and Good luck with everything!!

It is completely up to you and what you feel is appropiate. You might have to throw it for yourself with family and friends because I doubt your work will throw you one if they already threw you one. I have also heard of the ettique that you are not supposted to throw your own shower or anyone in your family is not supposted to throw you a shower only your friend is supposted to throw a shower for you and I think that is crap. I personally am pregnant with my first baby so I have not gotten to the point of two kids yet my stepmom is throwing a shower for me in august I am due in october. You also need to think that this is a new baby and I understand you wanting to celebrate a new child so in that sense it is completly ok. Go for it. Good luck with whatever you decide and congrats. Plus I do not think you are being greedy as another person wrote

The point of a baby shower is to celebrate your pregnancy with your friends, not to get stuff. Everyone I know has baby showers for all their kids, however if it makes you uncomfortable, you can always say on the invitation that gifts are optional. I hope this helps!

No you should not have another shower.

You could have a little welcome celebration after the baby is born and people will most likely bring a gift for the new baby and/or send out birth announcements and people will usually send a gift when they get one but you cannot keep expecting people to buy you things for each baby.

It's tacky and offensive to people for someone to expect gifts for every baby (by having a shower), especially so close together.

Alright here is the deal...I think the rule (if it is one) is stupid! As you said, your starting over from scratch because you got rid of everything. Alot of people do that. They give their stuff to a friend, or sister, or coworker who needs and never get it back. People "HOST" a shower for the mom-to-be because they want to! Every one is excited about a new baby...and who doesn't like to buy the cutesy baby stuff!?!

Just do it...if people get offended that is their problem and snotiness...not yours.

Good Luck!

I never heard of that rule before...new baby...new shower...I had a friend who has 3 kids and I went to a baby shower for each of them. Have fun!

my mom had 3 baby showers in order of gender is boy, girl, girl. each 10 months apart. i dont see any problems on having a baby shower. if u need things for the baby then go ahead and have the baby shower the gfts will help u out instead of u goin and spending more on baby expenses