Why do guys have bachelor parties before they get married?

Bachelor (and bachelorette) parties are all about having one last party with the guys (or gals) before you get married. It's an excuse to have a wild and crazy night and celebrate with your best friends. It does NOT have to include strippers -- it's all about what the person getting married wants to do. For my buddy's bachelor party, the guys went to paintball, then raced go-karts, then had a huge BBQ and played some poker. They had a great time and it was a good excuse to have fun with "just the guys."

It comes down to love and commitment. Not just for the Groom however. The bachelor party is a way for the best man, who's losing the groom to you, to say goodbye. It's a way for him to show the Groom(without saying it) how much he values their friendship. For the Best Man there's a feeling of loss and to a certain degree he feels replaced. The party is a a goodbye to the old ways in a way that offers closure. For the rest of the yahoos, it's a dang good reason to act like they're young again. Many of them are committed to wives, jobs, girlfriends, etc. This is a legitimate reason to party, stay out late, and live it up. The party really isn't about scoring for the groom or any other non-single guy. It's a moment shared, uninhibited away from responsibility. A suspension of the real world in favor of Old School. Boys just tend to get a little stupid with alcohol and do stupid things.

Not all of them have women dancing for them, that happened a lot more in the past when man were macho man, but now women are putting their feet down on such things and some men really are not into that. But they still have bachelor parties so then can fart, scratch themselves and burp around without getting the stink eye for the last time lol!

I think it's nice that you don't want a bachelor party. I think it's just traditional or what you will call it. Not all bachelor parties have to be about strippers and partying I know some guys that did a camping trip with the guys.

I think it would be nice to have a special time with your guy friends to hang out and enjoy being "single" one last time. :)

I don't get bachelor parties either.

Put it this way, I wouldn't like other nude men dancing around my fiancee. How many of us would enjoy our ladies acting wild with other men? So to be fair and considerate of each other, neither of us should be drunk around strippers.

And yes, watching women strip and having private lap dances shouldn't be done while you're in a relationship -unless your partner is OK with it, but I wouldn't understand why.

Because stereotypically speaking men view marriage as a dead end street, and they want their last night of "fun and freedom" before they have to bow down to the ol ball and chain. It's a stupid theory behind the tradition and I am not for the idea of disrespecting your soon to be spouse either. It's one thing to get together with friends and just have a nice mature time with drinks, but when you start incorporating all the naughty business, it just goes to show what a bad mentality the guy has going into the marriage. You shouldn't view marriage as a "dead end" and if you do, you shouldn't get married.

Women aren't off the hook either. They do naughty things as well.

My asian husband didn't have any bachelor party before he married me.

Amen.It is disrespectful.I wouldn't feel comfortable with men dancing half naked in front of me.My friends think I am crazy,but you and me and the rest of people that feel this way aren't weird.Its called being Respectful and thats what a great relationship is all about.With ya 100% on this.

I know many men who didn't have strippers/dancers at their bachelor parties. Some played golf, ate a nice dinner, went to a ball game, smoked cigars, played poker, drank themselves stupid, etc. I think it's mainly an excuse to hang out with your buddies and have some fun.

And not all men who go to strip clubs are pigs. Some men just do it beacuse it's "tradition" and they want to have that experience, or because their buddies organized the event and they don't want to say no. Just because a guy's at a strip club doesn't mean he wants to take the girl home with him and go to town on her.

I don't think it's a bad thing if it's harmless fun. I DO think it's a bad thing if the guy feels the need to lie to his fiancee about it, and/or do inappropriate things with the girls involved.

Everyone has their own varying opinions on bachelor parties. Personally, I think it is an innocent "last hurrah" before a guy gets locked down with "the ball and chain", it can easily be veiwed as dissrespectful, but I think it is just all in good fun.