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How do I plan an Atheist funeral?
Recently, my husband and I have decided to plan out our funeral arrangements and get everything in order. The only problem is my husband and I are the only Atheists within our families, and we don't know anyone who is an Atheist. I've never been to a funeral that wasn't held in a church, and we don't want ours held in one either. But, honestly, I have no idea how to go about planning, or at least trying to plan, a funeral for someone who is in no way religious. For our wedding, we sort of just "winged it" and made it up as we went. I don't think that will work for a funeral though. We'd like to get this done ASAP, since we both believe if we leave it to our families, it would most likely be in a church, which (obviously) neither of us wants. Any suggestions on what to do?
13 Answers
- Radio JinglesLv 71 decade ago
Why not just be cremated and hold a memorial. I like the idea of planning your own service - without using a church. You could rent a hall and have a screen with a short video about yourselves the things you loved, people, pets the things that meant something to you. Have the people you cared for come up and say a few words or related a funny story. Something that is personal.
You could also choose the music that had meaning to you. I want Neil Young's "Long May You Run" at my memorial. In my case, it suggests that there is an after life and hope (I know you don't believe in one - that's cool.)
- Fiery PhoenixLv 61 decade ago
Plan for outdoor funerals/memorials in someplace that you love and hold dear. (A forest you like to visit, a beach, etc.) Request that instead of having a priest with prayers, that family members simply offer remembrances and stories and anecdotes about you and your lives.
Personally, for my funeral, I hope to have people remember me in a positive way. I can't stand the thought of a bunch of people I know and love gathered around my body saying prayers to a god I don't believe in, and weeping and sobbing. I'd rather envision them laughing and joking and recalling the happy times, maybe even getting drunk and making silly toasts. I also want to be cremated, and have my ashes scattered in the forest near my old childhood home where my fondest memories are.
- 1 decade ago
I've thought about this a bit, and I've come to the conclusion that I don't care what anyone does for me after I die. I won't know the difference, and it may make them feel better.
That being said, I say set up a huge party with lots of booze, good food, music and let it rip.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Plan a Memorial to be held in a secular location. Like the beach or on a mountain.
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- 1 decade ago
Have a graveside service. Everyone tell a funny story about you that attends.Make it a party
Then have someone say when you get ready to be dropped in the ground:
Here lays someone we liked a lot.
bury him/her fast
before they stink a lot
- 1 decade ago
thats a great question, me and my wife are in the same boat. I would suggest a funeral home with speakers instead of preachers. Your favorite music, (no restrictions) and a celebration of life instead of a speech about your afterlife.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Your an atheist and your dead, why would you care?.
No funeral at all, straight to cremation, and whatever.
Funerals are not for the deceased, but the ones left behind, ask them what they think is appropriate
Source(s): I'll be dead, they can do as they wish - Anonymous1 decade ago
Sadly, no one will be surprised that your families couldn't be trusted. Any funeral home will prearrange whatever pleases you. Contact a few in your town.
Source(s): I'm not sure what you need to do to insure no believers disrespect your wishes. So many of them are so arrogant. - Anonymous1 decade ago
In Britain you can have a Civil funeral, but I don't where you live.
Check out humanist funerals.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Maybe have a wake instead? Rather than a sad mourning ceremony, have them throw an awesome party in your memory.