Sex question. For girls.?

I admire you for having enough self respect to not go with the crowd. Although it seems like everyone is having sex they really aren't, the reason it appears they are is because once someone does it is talked about and made kind of a big deal. People aren't talking about the ones who haven't had sex. You should wait until you're ready, no matter what is going on around you. You will find someone when you're ready, no matter how old you are. I was the one who thought sex was just sex and didn't mean anything, I was wrong. Im glad I waited, so worth it. No matter how long you wait the pain you may experience the first time will be the same, but don't be scared its not that bad and it goes away after the first or second time. Good luck, stick to what your gutt is telling you.

Everyone around you isn't having sex. When I was in highschool (95-99)...some were doing and others weren't.

Most in my circle weren't.

When I got to college a portion of my friends were virgins. It was sometimes awkward being the only virgin in the crowd. Especially when it came to the dorm parties and such.

Ever played 'Truth or Dare'? LOL.

Yeah...when they dimmed the lights, the timid little virgin, i.e., me, had to leave the party a tish bit early.

The guys were laughing, "Steph....! Where you going?" LOL. I said, "There will be no cherry-poppin tonight, thank you!" They were cool guys but it just wasn't my scene.

There was a whole lot of freakiness going on that night...or so I'd heard. The next morning...

I'm 28 now and sexually active, btw. Overall, it's just a personal decision. I don't think that I (or any other virgin) ever deserved a medal for being one. I just chose not to do it...yet. Big deal.

Anyway the first time is painful. The degree varies but it's definitely not the most comfortable feeling. No...waiting until you're older won't help.

Wait until you're married or with someone that you truly love...or it's not worth it. Personally, I waited for love --- and it was great.

Sex is just an act, really and you don't want your first time to be someone that you share lukewarm feelings for.

Or you'll be like, "Ok...was that it?"

I praise you for waiting until your older and making such a good descion! Don't let other people make you feel uncomfortable because they're doing something that you're not ready for. I still wish I waited until I was older to lose my virginity. My experience wasn't special, or how I wanted it to be at all. So I think you're making a wonderful, responsible descion! But, losing your virginity hurts no matter how old you are. But don't worry, hun, its really not too bad, it only hurts for about a minute. And when you do it with the right person, it will all be worth it. I hope this helps! :) And again, good for you!

I'm not a girl, but it will still hurt your first time most likely. You probably could do some serious 'self pleasuring' though if you really wanted to. That could help you 'prepare' I assume physically. I know I'm a guy, and I may not be 100% correct on that because I don't have the personal experience but I would guess so.

You're doing the right thing btw. You're definitely not the only one like this though it may seem that you are. People just focus and talk about sex a lot (and society puts a big emphasis on it...so it's hard to avoid). Keep doing what you're doing. It's the smart/best thing.

You're not the only one who wants to wait, you're the strong one, the one's losing their virginity are giving in to peer pressure/boyfriend pressure most likely.

Your first time doesn't have to be painful. Waiting til you're older has nothing to do with it. Several things can help it not be painful.

1. Make sure you tell the guy it's your first time when the time comes

2. Make sure you wait for the right guy, the right guy will be in it for you and your pleasure, not just his own

3. It helps if he's experienced, but that's not a must

#2 is a HUGE must though. Don't just give it up to anyone. It should be with someone who makes you feel safe in every way and all the time.

If you feel like you should wait, wait. I am 18 and still haven't lost my virginity. So, you are not alone. And don't listen to that guy that said if you wait you might not get any and people might not respect you. You can always find someone that will respect your decision. I have a boyfriend who isn't a virgin and he is completely fine with waiting until I am fully ready. You are right, this is not just something you throw away. It is a big deal, it is something precious that you are giving away to someone. Just make sure that you when you are ready it is with the right person.

For your first question, I am 17 and have decided to wait for marriage. It is a vital aspect of my relationship with the Lord. I agree that virginity is not something that should just be tossed to the first lucky boyfriend.

Second, I don't think age is an aspect. Often, if it is painful, it is because of the breaking of the hymen. Here is a link that explains that, in case you need a good definition.

http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/h...

And it is not painful for everyone. I hope this helps a little bit, and it is good to find someone else on the same page as I!

Hey, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it!

I waited til I was 18 and had started university and I knew that I was with the right guy at the time. We were together for a year and a half and I still have fond feelings for him. Don't lose your virginity to someone who won't respect you the next day, make sure it is someone who you care/love and know they feel the same.

I don't remember it being painful at all, to be honest.

PS If you're going to have sex and you've discussed it with him, if he is NOT a virgin as well, please ask him to get tested, even if you will be using condoms. It's the right thing to do, and it will make you feel better.

No girl I wish I would have waited longer to lose my virginity (I'm 19 I lost it when I was 16) and no girl it will hurt the same cause he is piercing through that hurts it not really an age thing...

no it will still hurt but only a little no matter when you ave sex it will hurt a little and lots of girls and guys wait to have sex my brother waited until he was 22 because he wantedit to be with someone special. Its about 50%50 some are hhavingsx and some are not