How far should I go to make others happy?

well at the end of the day, your parents have had their lives..you know being married and all that and this is your decision.

You need to think..do you love this man, would you do anything for him? and do you want to spend you life with him?

and if the answer to all of these is yes then you and your boyfriend should get married, or engaged, and you will live a happy life together..

and his heart problem is one of the things that makes him unique..as long as you and him know he has a stable life i think you should tie the knot.

hope i help and you sound a really sweet couple.

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What will make your parents happy? A healthy millionaire? I don't think you should worry about making your parents happy. You have to live with whoever you marry not them. You have to answer this question: Do I love him? If the answer is yes then marry him. If there is the slightest doubt then don't. Don't try to please your parents. Their reasons for not wanting him as a son-in-law are not valid, if those truly are the reasons.

Also, if I were you I'd live with the guy for at least 6 months before marrying him. That way you find out if there are too many things about him that drive you crazy and vice versa.

In our parents eyes no one is good enough for us. However it is not your parents that are marrying the guy, its you. If he makes you happy then your parents should be happy too. If you can look past his family and health problems without judging then your parents should be able to too. Speak to your parents and explain that this is the guy you love and want to be with and if they can not accept that then that is their problem and not yours. No, its not ideal to upset your parents but at the end of the day this is your happiness at stake and your parents won't be around to make decisions for you forever. Who you marry is ultimately your choice and yes your parents can air their opinion but cannot make the choice for you.

you can't do something just to please your parents, i know you may want to and that's a good quality but it is YOUR life. you need to do what's best for you. if you can handle being part of a screwed up family and have them as inlaws then that's your choice to make. it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. if you love your boyfriend then stay with him and be supportive but don't let his family drama get to you cuz it can stress you out. my family is really screwed up too and i lost a boyfriend because of it. he got so involved with my family that after he abused me physically he ended up staying over there. its different then you and your boyfriend but the point is, if you let it, family drama can spread. you need to keep seperate from that. all the best of luck and i hope you guys have an amazing wedding.

Hi .. Concern & love are Completely different.. Dont Mix Each other.. If the Guy Whom ur Parents have Seen For U can understand U & ur relation with ur Boy friend kindly Go-ahead...

the question is what do *you* want to do. If you truly love this guy, visa versa, and you picture yourself spending the rest of your life with him, who cares what your parents think? If you have good parents, what ought to be most important to them is your happiness, and if being with this guy is what makes you happy, then they ought to accept that fact and deal with it.

Something you can do is elope...

And tell your parents that he makes you happy. And if they can't accept that fact, then they'll just have to deal. Yes, it's hard to say something like that, but if you can picture yourself with this guy, then don't let your parents stand in your way.

Consider what your parents say friendly suggestions, but please do not think the way they are thinking that you can do "better".

If you truly love the man your engaged with, and want to spend the rest of your life with him then do it. Regardless of other family, this is between you two.

some parents just won't see the good in the guy because of other things. I don't want you to rip apart your family about his but you have to stand up on what you believe and love for. if he means a lot to you fight for him.

hon, it's this simple, you have to make YOU happy;; & there is one thing that your parents always fight for & that is YOUR happiness;; sometimes they just get a little mixed up representing whose happiness they're talking about;; your parents want YOU happy, make YOU happy, do what's in your heart...true love does rise above all else, just make sure your his (cuz ya already sound like he's your's);; although I personally, would go a little longer than 9 months...

you have to follow your heart thats the truth your parents mearly sound worried about you they'll accept you and your (if you so choose) husband in time

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