Ungrateful , rude in-laws!!!!?

I get where you are coming from that is rude. I was always taught to say stuff like thanks for having me. I feel wierd saying it but I usually do if I stay somewhere. Or just thanks for making my stay here so great.

What I think is maybe they thought that they thanked you as you went along (if you know what I mean) so they thought it was taken care of. And also cos you are family they didn't feel they had to be overly polite cos they felt more familiar with you.

What I would recommend is that in the future if anyone asks either of you if they can stay each of you says "I will need to discuss that with my partner and make sure its going to work."

That way you can have a talk at your convenience and decide if you really do want these people to stay or if its gonna put you out too much.

Also for these types of people you may decide to let them stay but not actually go out of your way at all to drive them around or make them food. Simply say you are gonna be real busy but heres a list of local takeaways and bus timetables.

I feel for your wife cos if she says anything its pretty much guaranteed to start a fight. She probably agrees with you but theres just not really any nice way of saying ' hey you didn't say thank you and thats offended us"

Let this one go but learn from it. I know it sucks though.

It sounds like you have more issues with your wife and her family than you're stating here. You're awfully quick to jump to the assumption that you won't get a "thank you" from these people. I would suggest you calm down and think long and hard about what you're really angry about and if it appears that this visit IS the issue, you can stop being such gracious hosts in the future and prevent any future resentment toward your wife and in-laws....Maybe your wife's family only seems rude to you because they are different than your own family. Think about it and try not to hold it against your wife. The less said over petty nonsense in a family the better your relationship will be.

You can't blame your wife for not wanting to start a family feud.

Rude family is very hard to deal with. Being taken for granted is also very hard to deal with. I have found from experience, the best thing to do is just let it go. There are just some members of my family who are just that rude also. When I do something for them, I do it knowing I may not even get a thank you out of it but I feel better knowing I helped. My husband has the same attitude, so we don't have to argue about it.

Maybe you will be surprised and get a Thank You card in the mail or something.

Some people are just not very considerate. But they did say thanks here and there so maybe just accept that is as much as you will get.

Especially try to be understanding at least for your wife's sake.

Edited to add: Maybe if/when this happens in the future, wait until they get home and then call to ask if something you have done has helped them and if they made it home okay. Maybe that will get a thank you out of them.

No, it's not ok. If someone is kind enough to let you stay in their home and feed you, the least they could have done was give you a simple thank you. Next time they ask, just say no. Maybe they will learn a lesson. It drives me nuts when people believe it's ok to take advantage of people, especially family members.

wow, that is so rude not to say a nice thank you when you leave after being someone's guest for 6 days! even if i go to someone's house for dinner, i would always tell them at the door before we leave how nice the evening was, and thank them for their hospitality. and that's just for a couple hours! they sound like they have almost no manners. i would just not have them over anymore- next time they come in town don't invite them to stay with you, and they can pay for a hotel. it's not your problem to fix their awful manners, but if they ever ask why you didn't invite them back, that's a good opportunity to tell them how you feel.

That is more than rude they should have taken you and tour wife out to a nice restaurant for dinner and paid. I would tell her that was the last time anybody stays with us again from your family or mine for that matter. If they want to come out here they can get a room like everybody else and then meet up with them for dinner and be done with it. (separate checks of course)

manners cost nothing, for some reason some people seem uncomfortable showing gratitude, or maybe they feel it's what you should have done for them since they're family. What goes around comes around, don't be mad at your wife just know that you are the better person because you will say thank you for things people have done for you

Respected Brother and sister

Ist of all I am very delighted that you have taken care of your loved ones

sir but when we want any kind of appreciation only then it hurts

Hindus Holy book says You do your Karma and Phal (fruit ) leave up to the God Sir I am sure that time will come when they will realize that they should have reciprocate in the same manner .

God is great

lalituppal

India

Well maybe they are waiting until they reach home to send you a well thought out, thank you note. Or maybe when they arrive home the will have remembered that they did not thank your properly. If none of this happens, then may I suggest that you send them a short note: "Here's hoping you arrived home safely. Enjoyed having you. Hope you had fun. And, YOU ARE WELCOME ! ! ! " And tell your wife to relay to her family any excuse that she cares to give, since she does not seem to see their rudeness.