OK Ladies, please explain.?

I did my senior thesis on abuse and interventions and support groups. This subject is close to my heart b/c my sister survived an abusive relationship as well. It was a difficult time for my whole family.

First of all, women end up with men like that because they have low self esteem, and being alone (not in a relationship) scares the sh*t out of them. So, they pick the first guy that comes along, and it's usually a guy that isn't scared off by their smell of desperation.

Second, they stay with these men because most of them are not only physically abused, but they are emotionally abused, which leads to a sort of sick cycle of abuse - where the woman is dependent on the man and his constant attempts to keep her with him. He'll beat the crap out of her and she'll think, "I''m gonna leave" but she can't let go of that desire she feels not to be alone, so she believes the lies he tells her when he says he won't do it again. Pretty soon, they are so low in their own self-image that they believe their partner when he says that they aren't anything with out him. They believe that they are to blame for the way they are treated and that no one else will love them.

Third, like a drug addict, the cycle of abuse hooks it's victims. Quitting an abusive relationship is much like kicking a drug or alcohol habit: cold turkey is best, and you need lots of support. You need to walk away and never look back - and you need your friends and family around you to remind you not to turn around and peek at him again.

Not all girls are like that. I mean I like a nice guy and drugs and alcohol are such turn offs. But at the same time I won't go out with a nerd, or a lame guy. He has to be fun and exciting. We don't usually fall for guys because of that stuff. We fall for guys who happen to be involve with those kind of stuff. Your being really ignorant with this question. The girl you like is into bad boys. But not every girl is. But we do like the bad boy type better than the momma's boy.

Its mainly because women think they can change the person into what they feel is ideal. Then when they are in too deep the relationship turns into an abusive relationship. Basically, women are complicated. They keep the good guy as best friends because they feel safe and feel that they have someone to run to when things go wrong with their current relationship.

i wonder why that is too...and i don't think i can explain it.

i can guess that girls like the bad boy type cause they want someone who's a so-called "real man" who takes control and tells them what to do because they might not be smart enough to make their own decisions

this might be true, but it still doesn't make much sense

i like the nice, clean guys and can't understand why anyone would prefer the abusive losers instead...

i'm glad you're a nice guy and i hope you keep being a nice guy - the world needs more of them. someday this girl will come around, and if not there's plenty of girls out there who would love to have you take care of them.

Cuhs us girls want what we can't have. We want the bad boys that are hard to get rather than the good ones right in front of us. We can sometimes be blind..... :P I know because Im attracted to a bad boy that is a complete jerk and I'm practically ignoring my god guy friend who's basically perfect. I'm sorry I'm on of the women like this! >.<

Some women are just stuck in a horrible cycle. Some don't realize that they're being abused and need it pointed out to them. The down side to pointing it out is that it could ruin a friendship if they don't want to hear it. Personally, a friend saved me by pointing it out and I managed to get away from an abusive marriage. Others just try to pick the person that their parents are going to hate the most. Bottom line, most women are nuts (and that's coming from a woman). Stick with your friend, eventually she'll see what she's missing in you.

I'm not a girl (sorry)

But, I've seen this many times.

A lot of women have that quality. This is grossly apparent in abusive relationship cases.

The best answer: Who knows.

There are a lot of things that drive us, purely on instinct.

Why do men feel the need to be senor macho, or be the protector?

Instinct

She thinks she only deserves him, a good man will never have her. When a good guy is attracted to her she doesn't believe that there is anything in her attractive and that she is doing something wrong by letting this man think she is something she's not.

It's a terrible thing to watch, but it happens every day.

Hope this helps!

People who have have low self esteem always get sucked in by weirdo's like that. They don't think they can get/deserve any better so they stay in abusive situations. It's all about psychology, just google it around. Yu should understand then

some women are just drawn to the bad boy type or they think they can change the bad boy. some change and figure it out and when they find the good guy there like what was i thinking! hopefully your women learns.