How can anyone with any intelligence say that a child doesn't need a mother AND a father n their day2day lives?

oh I see, b/c some one thinks differently then you they are an idiot with no common sense or intelligence!? If dating advise is your main reason for stating this ridiculous rant then I am sorry, you seem to be the one lacking in proper parenting department. I also resent your blanket statement that father's prepare the child for the world. Are you kidding?? Most mother's not only protect, but prepare the child for life. They are the ones doing most of the child raising since Dad is off at work most of the time.

Well I think you are an idiot. While I have no experience with gay parents, both my parents died when I was very young. I'm raised by my uncle. So is my sister. I have no motherly figure. and my uncle would never dream of trying to be my dad. I do just fine. I can protect myself and have taken down a few guys who were out of line. As for a mom. Why exactly do I HAVE to have one? I don't need somebody to tell me what to do, or give me advice. I'm smart enough to know right and wrong. I can cook, clean, shop, whatever. I miss my parents, but I don't need them to live. I'm a happy, independant person. There has to be someone out there that has some freakin common sense that understands this, as you say. I am a very well balanced person. You, on the other hand, may not be.

Well thats true. Perfect families are quite rare now. i know 5 people whos mums and dads are still together and only 2 lots of the parents get along. Or what about single mums or dads, widowers, a parent who is in prison or something like a drug dealer.

Sure mums and dads bring the preparation and protection. But why cant you grow up perfectly norm with mumS or dadS. Surely your not going to end up a unbalanced if you purely have two dads or two mums. As long as your loved, thats all you need to grow up to be a good person.

i can prepare my son for the world, though all parents need to protect there kids from the world when they are young, don't say as a mum i'm not gonna be able to teach him how to be an effective adult. i consider that my duty and have already started as has every other mum. yes it is most beneficial for a child to have male and female role models and authority figures but theres no reason why 2 men or 2 women can't do it. plus have you never heard of aunts or uncles?

well bc in all honesty a child doesnt NEED two parents. it is the ideal but isnt necessarily needed. i agree with you that children should have two (or more) loving and supportice fully active parentsin thier lives. but i am from a very blended family where i didnt always have both myu parents in my daily life, and i am ok. i came out of my expereinces feeling all the love and support in the world. as the sister of a lesbian who has a child with her parnter, that child has alot of love and just as much support as a child with opposite sex parents. they just make sure that the child has some active male influences also. it really depends on each individual situation and family. and also the child.

I do not agree with you generalization though. there is no set thing, in general or not, that each parents provides to the child. i am preparing my son to do alot of things. and my husband is very protectiv eover him, sometimes more than myself. and those two things are nowhere near the complete job description of a parent.

so i guess i am on the fence with this one. i agree with you- but to a point.

What you are saying is understandable but that's just like saying that single mothers can't raise men, in which they do it everyday. Yes the ideal parentship is a mother and a father but just because they don't have both doesn't mean that they are a lost cause. Because even some children that do have a mother and a father don't turn out so hot.

If my straight uncle and aunt can raise a gay kid, then it only stands to reason a gay couple can raise a straight one.

I was raised by a mom and a dad. My dad broke my jaw. My mom signed me away to keep from having to leave him.

I would have preferred 2 loving parents of the same gender.

Or even 1 loving parent of any gender.

I understand what you're saying and agree but I feel you are missing one component. These kids before getting adopted by a gay couple have no one, that's right no one who loves them and cares for them. Having two parents, even if they're not one male/one female standard parents, is better than nothing at all.

Don't agree. Sorry. I think having a mother and a father in your life definitely helps and can make things easier, but I know many people who have turned out just fine with one or the other. I came from divorced parents and my dad wasn't a huge role in my life, but I had a lot of love and turned out just fine. Sorry to burst your bubble. =)

Children need a male and female role model in their life, that doesn't necessarily mean a mother and a father. He/she can come in the way of grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, etc.