can you have SELF-RESPECT even if others don't RESPECT you?

You have a way you like to be treated dont you?.....I'll try to find where I'm respected as I'd like to be....If No-one ,absolutely no-one in this world respects me for no reason what so ever, I'dnt mind being alone, as much as I can....loneliness doesnt affect me to the extent where I have to give up self respect and self esteem to be accepted

Self-Esteem is a NEED and NOT a PRIORITY

Second on is yeah, its possible because when you think low about yourself and when you think others are far superior than you, you allow them to treat them however they want you to....So arent you respecting them?

Those are two complete things,

If you asked this question I would have said NO

"Will others respect you if you dont respect yourself"

Its because when you yourself dont value yourself so much, others will devalue you

Yes to both. There are plenty of people who were brilliant geniuses, composers, philosophers, artists and so on who were misunderstood and even demonized. They were not generally respected, but certainly they did have some respect for their own talent and therefore themselves.

There are also plenty of people who respect others, who they don't even really know much about, only because they hold power or are rich.

Your quest for self respect ultimately has to come from within. You have to want to respect yourself, to live a life that includes love and respect for yourself and others (no matter how badly you are treated or they have been abused).

In the New Testament, Jesus talks about building your house on a base of sand or rock. If you build your house on sand, you can be blown away. However, if you build your house on rock, your house will remain forever. The same principle goes for your self-esteem.

When you listen to your inner voice, which lights up the tunnel of life ,you aim high. you can have self respect even if others don't respect you. Actions are louder than words. By good deeds and a balanced mind you command respect. Give respect and take respect. You attract people llike a magnet when you live by strong convictions and principles in life.

When others don't respect you care about and trust, you lose respect in yourself...But, you can only respect others when you respect yourself. Sometimes we strengthen each other's self respect, but, it comes down to respecting yourself no matter what, which means honoring the respect for the other.

I believe that you can have self respect even when others do not respect you, but it is not possible to respect others if you do not carry respect for yourself. Why is it this way is as you cannot give something which you do not have. If you give love you are having love yourself, if you are giving peace you cannot give this peace if you not already have it, and so it is with respect. You need to have respect yourself to give it to others.

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There are those who see us and know us and love us and always will....

There are those who see only what they choose to see....they will never know us....they could never love us

When we are young we are dependent on others and often Self-worth is a reflection of how we were valued and respected by Others....

Self-respect comes from within....knowing and loving ourselves.....this grows in us as we travel our Life Path and we become seasoned and have memory of our strenghts and our victories.....

Life can give some very humbling experiences....and with it an opportunity for great personal growth.....as the world may look at us with contempt....still we can know the integrity of that which is within us....

Therefore, I believe that we can have self-respect even if others do not respect us.

One could respect others who do not respect us....based upon the knowledge that they are on their own Path.....and likely they are doing the best they can do....however if they do not respect me it would be difficult for me to want to include them within the circle of people whom I hold near and dear.....and to whom I pour out that which is the best within me.......

Respect is a demonstration of self appreciation. Intellectual development diminishes the tendency toward disrespect.

Disrespect reveals volumes about the individual who lacks respect for others. There will be deficiencies in education and knowledge.

More knowledgeable person maintains a level of respect commensurate with educational and constructive social experience.

Self-respect comes not from pride or dignity as interpreted by others. But it is measured through our own sense of worth and comes wholly from the belief that one is doing the right and honorable thing. Consider the mythical Jesus. At the end, as he lugged his burden through crowded streets, being mocked, beaten and ridiculed (abandoned by his friends) his self-respect could not have waivered. Because he "KNEW" the truth. As to your second question, I will say simply this: For too many years I was lost and had no self respect. During those times however trouble filled,I NEVER LOST RESPECT FOR MOM...

Yes although it seems to me the second part of your question is harder to achieve as we tend to automatically treat others as we treat ourselves.

I have found it very hard to get and maintain a consistent self respect as my disrespect was taken in preverbally and I never even saw myself as a real person - just someone who served the real people.

In TA terms OK corral I am OK your are OK is the only sane place to be neuroticism enters the system when not ok ness directed inside or outside comes on the scene. My sense is that the respect for self and others doesnt have to be extreme - just a sense that the self and other is ok to be living and breathing

Respect given by ones own self is self-respect. It is difficult to answer the second part of the question.