did u ever stayed friends with a person just so u could change them and make them do the right thing?

Yaa...sometimes ur right. Even most of them couldn't change myself and all the time i have been with my friends i don't think even i could have changed them. Of course good advices and help can really help them and make them feel better, but what shows the better change ever in them is a true life's experience. Every1 learn from their mistakes and each action they do. That's the universal truth friend. Here is what a true friend can do, bring out their mistakes and let him feel that he can correct it, give ur friend a chance to know that he can stand up for himself and learn something out of it. Thats what life is, sometimes when we feel that we are the worst and losers we could never change ourselves, maybe we should know that there are people out there who have suffered more than our own self and our loss is nothing compared to them. Its a tough task because no person wants to feel like that, for someone his own sorrow seems to be the worst and always expects a friend to console him or cheer him.

As far as I know, this is the biggest truth though how much ever a good adviser u might be, a listener might want to do something on his own so thats life has given a chance to make a change in his ownself. Its only that in which he changes. In every stage of our life, we have gone through this.

I don't think this is an advice, but am trying to be truthful to you in this part.

I hope that if not mine, the other answers cheered u up.

Take care, keep smiling, don't lose hope. :)

I did and it worked. Look, as long as you both have the same interests, ideas, aim in life, you will encourage each other to be better. Sometimes, when I get far from one of my friends for some time, he knows many others and start to change his way and to be bad.

But to some extent I agree with you that human nature is hard to be changed. We can just lead it to the right way and encourage it to be better. If conditions change, this nature will probably lose its way. If u notice that ur friend is getting worse and u cannot help of it, just give him a last advise and don't hesitate to leave him if he affects you in a bad way. That's why all pple need example to follow his steps. Try to be always this example. If u can't, just don't permit yourself to be affected badly by others. Change others as possible as you can, or don't let them change u negatively. Remember that and good luck.

I've thought about doing this before, at least, but you're right; it's fine to help but impossible to completely change someone by yourself. They have to do their part, too, and in order for that to happen they have to want to be helped. The best thing to do is to just basically stick by your friend, encourage them to do the right thing, and make an effort to pull them through it; the rest is up to them. You have to make your own choices and opinions in life because you pave your life. And always remember, along the way, to enjoy yourself! You only get one life on this Earth, and you should enjoy it before you're with God, don't waste it! You won't regret it because there's always hope....

I did too , for several times, and some worked and others don't. I stick to those who's hard to deal with . Different attitudes could not be easily determine but some results to a good one depending to your intentions.

I've never stayed friends with anyone to try to change them, no. The sad fact is, while you can help people to change if they want to, the decision has to come from them, not you. There's no way of forcing them to be someone they don't want to be.

Yeah. It sometimes worked, sometimes. Mostly not though. I think it's just because of the human ego and how it makes people think they're right and need everyone else to be right.

I used to think it was out of compassion for people but I thought to myself, "if I'm so mad at this person when they do ______ and ______ and I hardly like talking to them as people, how am I 'compassionate' for them?"