What should I do now?

Continue in the relationship and see where it goes. Do not repeat the "love you" to him and do not feel he owes you a similar response. It's possible he is afraid he might hurt you but whenever we enter into a relationship that's the chance we take. Enjoy whatever this is for as long as it lasts. You should not be afraid that you might damage the relationship. If it's a good relationship it will grow into what ever you both decide you want. Four months seems a very short time to decide you "love" him but we all have degrees of love that grow with time or fade out. You might just be a few months ahead of him. Relax and enjoy your time with "John" Who knows? He may be the one and if he's not - so be it.

OOPs This is really long BUt I hope that it helps u :

Well this sounds like my story

,but I was chatting with a friend on the internet and we were talking about my gf but she was reading what I was writing and I knew so after talking about her I told the guy that I think I'm in love with her (Actually it was like telling her but telling him too) so She asked me if I really mean it and I told her yes so she kissed me and that's how it all began But she started the kiss and Now I didn't get spooked and ran away ,and I love her Very Very much

here is a thing about guys ( If he loves a girl and she tells them that she loves him first she has done him a great favor)but if he doesn't here is where he run away but I think that he loves you From What You wrote BUT,((You gotta let him act and pause acting for a little you've acted enough and it;s his turn now)) If He loves you He'll Be showing some feelings In the near future you can help him but You did enough movements it's his turn now

Good Luck

Whatever you do, do NOT pester him about this. Act like it never happened, refuse to say it further (tell yourself that) as men can take it for granted as can women to hear that and feel they "have you" to do what they want then otherwise. Do NOT call more often than before and let him make an effort with contact and plans to share time. I would say NOT to make it easy for him to feel he's got it made now in hearing such , that makes someone just lack effort. They fail to think of the fact that when they stop trying the other person will feel they don't care and end this. Sooner than later you should see what you need to do in what is best for you with him then.

He wishes to be more honest about how you feel about him, I don’t really think he referred only at this words “I love you”, he might wanted to say about being more open or…like this.

And also I don’t think the guy should say first “I love you". It doesn’t matter who say it first as long is true. If you are with him is normal you both say it, without thinking how many times or how… the important is to say what you really feel, both of you. If you feel right now you love him, don’t hesitate to tell him.

Is true some people say these words a little harder, because they were disappointed before or many other reasons. It might be this in your case or his... If you think he wanted to hear it from you means he wanted to be sure. He cares of you and he might be afraid of the same things as you. Just let things came by themselves. And don’t regret anything. If you care of him is not bad to let him know.

I wish you luck

Okay...you were doing great....dating is what you should be doing....and what you should continue to do.... You should be spending 99 percent of all your brain power and energy on studying and having a lot of experience in making friends and developing social skills.

At this point in your life, you should be spending 1 percent of your time thinking about being very serious about a guy unless you are planning to graduate from college sometime in the next few months.

Yes, you have sexual urges.....No, you do not act upon them now....nor do you kill someone because you have anger urges, nor do you go to the bathroom wherever you happen to be simply because you feel the urge to "go".... Human beings control urges....it is what differentiates them from cats and dogs...

You have a big decision to make....you either want to be a winner....OR you want to be a twit who got distracted and spent a lot of time out in Drama Queen World obsessing over some guy who doesn't know he is also supposed to be focusing on studies and simply dating...hanging out with girls...and having friendships...

It's a very, very simple decision.....I think you should opt for the Winning decision....instead of being a dumb, twit girl who gets sidetracked by some guy way, way too early on....

"but that he's confused about how he feels about me." <---- Red Flag

Guys know how they feel... there's no confusion, he just doesn't want to say he's not sure if he wants to be with you for the long run.

My guess is you are both young and have a lot of living to do. Enjoy friendship, have fun, and never feel there is a need to "love" someone.

My advice is to break up with him, and see if he comes back. Guys want and appreciate things more when they can't have them.

The question is do you really love him? If you do then just take things 1 day at a time and things will develop and flow as they should. If he doesnt fall in love with you be prepared to handle that. Remember that you must love yourself before anyone else can love you.

Maybe he wasn't trying to get you to say it.. He may have just been trying to establish how things were going for you in the relationship.. look at the possibilities, and remember that guys have always been known to like hard to get..I dont know why but thats the way it is so just play it cool

I just think he got scared when you said i love you to him. I did that to my boyfriend and he acted and said the same thing as yours did. I gave him a few days to think and called him up and met up with him and asked him how did you feel when i said i loved you? he said i got caught off guard. That's my best advice i could give most guys get confused when the gf's says i love you.

with guys its actually more simple thy know from the first moment they see you if they are attracted to you and in what category they put you in just for the time being ,sex for that matter or serious as the mother of their children and only then they will tell you I love you or I love you too as a response to what you say to them frist in ur case they guy might not even be available sounds like a 2 timer sure he s checking out more fish in the sea I bet he never stays till the morning? hurry back home to his wife or other gf.....

just confront him be direct look him in the eye his reaction will tell you more than words ask him to specify what he feels for you....... looks how he will struggle if so just laugh at him tellhim he sucks in bed and the size of his.......its just not maing you feel good.........lol