Am I in the wrong for the way I feel? Am I hurting my mom?

Depends where you're moving? Maybe your mom isn't comfortable with where you're going?

It's not wrong to feel the way your feeling.

Both of you are having natural feelings.

My oldest brother is 26 and he's still living at home, but, it's a very different situation with him. He has no desire to move out whatsoever.

Anyway, if you want to move out, move out.

Your mother feels as though you don't love her, because the way you're acting makes it seem as though you don't want anything to do with her. If it's affecting your relationship, I think you should move out as soon as possible and then you can talk to your mum about it and just go on from there. I'm sure after you have your own home, your own space, things with your mum will settle down and go back to normal.

You have to realize that by you moving out, your mum may take it the wrong way and think it's because you really do hate her. So, before you move out, you should spend some happy, mother-daughter time with her. Just to let her know that you do love her and you've never stopped loving her.

Best of luck, hope I helped a bit.

No you are not wrong in feeling that way. Humans are no different from any other animal God created. When animals grow up they leave their parents to start their own journey through life. When baby birds get old enough to fly they leave their nests. It's not because they hate their parents it is because that's the way God wired His creations to feel as they mature. Parents, especially mothers, have a hard time dealing with this fact of nature and unintentionally interpret you wanting to leave the nest as that they are not needed by you anymore, which is not the case at all. The love you have for each other will keep both of you together no matter how many miles apart you are from each other.

You are not wrong at all and my bf is in the same situation, except he doesn't have the means to move out yet. This does cause a lot of tension with his parents that he really does love, just wants his own space as well.....

You should try talking to your mom. Tell her that you want to know you are able to provide for and take care of yourself before you can ever feel like you can take care of a family if that is what you want someday. Tell her that it is a testament to her and how well she raised you that you want this. She will see that she raised a strong and smart woman.

This may be the 1st time in R&S that I've found 10 replies that are all good

My 2-cents worth is honing in on the tension that I sense in both of you, to encourage you to use these 2 wet days now to plan a good trip out together this fine Saturday

That's why this is relevant here:-

Maybe readers can help me to help others more effectively?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ao4EU...

When I posted that, @ 3 hours ago, it was pouring

& I thought a good group meet idea for this fine Saturday would cheer folk up

Why it's relevant here is that group meets remove the pressure of 1-2-1 meets with strangers

Also, you can see how folk react to a wide range of people, & so get a good idea of their true personality & character

So why no replies?

I ask as I really want to help folk: I may well not be able to go myself, but I know others will enjoy it, yes?

Your wrong to a certain extent but it is hard to control your emotional needs and wants at that age. Look at it this way your mother gave birth to you , Housed you Schooled you Fed you and Clothed you for the last 25 years and then you treat her in this manner so how would you feel if your future child did this to you ? She could have also kicked you out of the house because by that age you should have it together but she is tolerating your behaviour because she loves you. Have a bloody good think about your selfish attitude also because you are hurting her very much indeed.

You asked for my opinion so here goes... no offense to you since I really don't know you.

Yes, it's normal to want to move out. I know you can't wait for that time to come. In the meantime, relax and enjoy your last days at home with your mom. You're 25, not a baby so don't stay in your room all day unwilling to face your mom. Hiding away sounds a bit selfish and childish. Your mom feels like you don't want to be around her and for good reason, you don't. It's time to form an adult relationship with her. Stop being selfish and stop making her worry about you.

Being 25 you should be thankful to your mom for a place to stay and you should be more mature in your relationship with her than to act like a child and shut yourself up in your room. Because of the way you're acting , your mom is probably worried that you are not mature enough to move out on your own.

you just need to let her know your getting older and you need your own place

dont make it seem like you wanna move out real bad

get a place that isnt really far from her so you to can visit eachother

im sure alot of parents go through the same thing when their children get older and doing more things

im sure she will understand.

no matter what you going to have to move

if you are only child get her a animal or something to keep her company

Are you serious? You are still living under your mother's roof at 25! You are blessed, many mother's do not do that. Show her a little love, you have no idea that there are mother's out there that would have booted your tail at 18...

Sweetie your mom is just worried about you and misses her little girl.Keeping to yourself can result in you being depressed and maybe mom sees this and wants to help.Don't wait till you move to make things right with mom do it now.You can have your privacy and mom to if you try to understand her wanting to help you have what you want most,FREEDOM.