Am I reading too much into this?

Wow.

The way I see it, you two are married and close HONEST friends, right? It's easier to tell you that you can't really afford it, however, when a "friend" calls, it's more difficult to let them in on your financial situation and it's much harder to say no.

I'd talk to him about it again. Remind him how it makes you feel.

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Wow, maybe just talk to him about it again. Sorry dear.

Also, I just wanted to add, it's great that you and your husband have a trusting relationship! You don't find them anywhere anymore (very rarely) - my husband and I are the same way.

Yes you are overreacting a bit. Many people feel more enthusiastic about an event when they can share it with a group rather than just the person they see daily. It has happened to me all the time and I realized they don't mean any harm by it. This even applies to my children. I make plans to take them to the water park, the zoo or whatever and they just say, "na, maybe next week", which makes me sad because I want to spend time with them. However, if a friend calls and suggests going someplace, they will jump and ask "mom, can you take us?"

Some men are the same way, don't feel bad, as long as he shares the time with you also

I understand your frustration. Sounds like he really wants to hang out with this friend.

Sometimes, though, an activity can sound more fun if more people are involved. If money was tight, the thought of going to the fair with just me and my hubby might sound not worth the money. But if you add friends in the mix, it could get more interesting (maybe some beer, laughs, reminiscing), and maybe the expense would be worth it.

Maybe that's where you're hubby is coming from. $100 bucks for just you and him to have a "probably" forgettable night at the fair. Or $100 bucks to have a fun time with friends you haven't seen in forever.

Don't get too worked up. Just be a cool, laid back wife. He probably doesn't even realizing how it comes off. He'll appreciated it later down the line.

No, you are not overreacting. Just to teach him a lesson. I would not let him go out with his friends and cancel plan for the fair. Let him know that you are really upset by his behavior. And, how are you Ok with him being friends with other female. Anyway, teach him a lesson.

I know that it has only been ten months. Now is the perfect time to lay down the laws of your marriage or he will continue to do this and other annoying things over and over again. Don't bear and grin. Tell him how you really fear-straight to the point. He will understand and respect you more for this.

Well, when someone else asks it is much harder to be honest and say we do not have the money-so you reply kindly like yeah that would be great. The fact that he can be honest with you and be himself is the comfort we get from being married. I think it sounds normal and nothing to worry about.

men aren't "like a brother" to women. unless they are gay men.

he's "like a f*ck buddy" to them.

you are being used and disrespected.

only you can decide if you want to put up with it for the next 50 years. he's not going to be changing for you, if that's the fairy tale you've been telling yourself.

only you can take the necessary action.

i doubt us telling you to leave him will have little effect on your dysfunctional relationship.

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like i said, keep wallowing in denial. thumbs-down me all you want, but you're the one being cheated on. better hope he wipes that thing off on her sheets before he sticks it in you.

we can't help you.

No you're not overreacting. I would be annoyed too.