My best friends F-I-L?

I think you should leave it up to him to decide. Make sure he knows that you totally understand should he decide to cancel, there will always be other times the two of you can attend baseball games together.

I would also suggest you asking his wife what she thinks. Maybe she would prefer her husband to be around incase her father passes away. Or maybe she is the type that is encouraging him to go. That may make you feel more at ease.

I think you should go with what your gut is telling you to do. Very sorry to hear about the bad news.

i am so sorry to hear this, brett. it seems to me, that even given a 3-weeks expectancy and he still wants to go to the games, he's pretty gung-ho on baseball. i'm not saying it would be denying him his dying wishes if you didn't, but i would probably honor his want to go to the games. he's most likely wanting nothing more than to feel normal at this time. being cooped up at home will not help his spirits and i hope his daughter would be able to see that.

that all being said, you should propose your concerns to him about him going. not in a "i am am worried you'll pass" way, but more of a "are you sure you can handle it, ya wuss?" ok. not like that either. but friendly and not overtly concerned.

as harsh as it sounds, there isn't a lot of difference between two and three weeks. if he's spending it with the ones and doing the things he loves, it is time perfectly spent.

addition: ohhhh no. i read your question wrong too. i though you meant your friend's father in law was joining the two of you for the ball games. in that case, i would confront your friend about it. he may have an inside guilt about going to the games since they're away and it sounds like some planning may have gone into the trip. you may have to swallow the cost of previously purchased tickets, but there will be other games and talking it out with him may release a huge weight off his shoulders. you're a good friend for thinking this one through so deeply.

i am going to leave my previous answer up in case i am totally spazzing out and read the question correctly the first time :p

I agree with Scooter. I tend to be too bossy and might be too bossy when trying to make him do what is expected. Instead I might decide to be supportive and simply not be able to go for at least a month...and find a small home repair I need to do with the baseball money. I can watch something on t.v. and I always need home repairs anyway. Then I will be in a better position when something does really happen. I'm sorry and have a good day.

Let him make the decision. If he really wanted to go to the baseball game he would, I think he would make the right decisions with his last 3 weeks left to live.

Have a heart-to-heart with your best friend, explain why you have second thoughts about going to this game in 2 weeks. It's also not just about your best friend, his wife is just as important in this decision and she needs to be ok with it. He may be looking to this trip as a way of not having to deal with his father-in-law passing. If this is true, he'll still have to deal with it somehow when he returns. When you talk with your best friend, listen. Not just with your mind, but with your heart, pay attention to what he says and how he says it. Many people with cancer survive past the prognosis... no one knows for sure when the end is. Regardless, make sure your best friend knows you'll be ok with whatever he decides, and when the time comes, you'll be there with him to deal with things and support him.

Sorry to hear this.

I would let him make the decision. Sometimes in times like these, something to escape, even for a little while, is good therapy. However, I would hope that his wife is comfortable with this and he discusses this with her.

I'm so sorry for your friend & his Father In Law. :( My heart goes out to him. I say let him make that decision. But at the same time remind him that he needs to be there for his wife & Father In Law.

Prayers for your friend's Father In Law. :(

Let him make the decision. The news hasn't even sunk in yet, and no one KNOWS what will happen.....3 weeks prognosis? Egads. Some people live years beyond their prognosis.

So sorry to hear that! Let him make his own decision..To make him happy we have to respect him in anyway we can......god bless him.