what do you think of such a person? she come over for dinner, then they stay till its late and dark.?

She sounds horrible!

If you can bear to let her in your house again, instead of waking your husband call her a cab to take her home, hide your food, and tell her you're not well and are having an early night.

She's not really a friend is she?

Is she lonely? A sister of mine had a woman always hanging around her house with her family. She was lonely! Now, About waking up the husband thing, I would have to let her know that I would really appreciate it if she would let me know when she will need a ride, because I don't want to wake my husband up. He's tired. If you keep doing it, she will keep bothering him. You can say things to people the exact way you ar feeling,but just choose the right time and use a gentle approach.

Well....Seems like to me..either this person is rude and does not care at all...or they have no home training or may just be ignorant! You or your family should sit this person down and have a nice family discussion about the issues that have occured. If talking politely about the issues with the person does not work then maybe this person is just flat out RUDE! I suggest talking to the person before anything gets too out of line. Just make sure you and your family are POLITE. Have a conversation with he parents about the late night stayings and the behavior of the child.

Wow. That's incredibly rude. Make sure you're being positively clear with her about what is unacceptable in your home, or give her a reason that she shouldn't be staying so late (the food thing I won't touch, as that was just rude and ridiculous) If she still doesn't get it, drop her.

Sounds like she has a sense of entitlement....she believes the universe revolves around her and people - you in particular - exist to meet her needs/wants.

Remember, you teach people how to treat you, what you are willing to put up with. Standing up to her and telling her "No!" may mean the loss of a friend (not that it sounds like she cares about you in any way other than a servant). You have a choice in this, you set the standard for how you will be treated, either as a friend and equal or as her servant. Making no decision or not standing up to her, is a decision in itself - it's choosing to reinforce that she's the center of the universe and you exist to serve her.

Whatever choice you make, you have to be at peace with it. Meaning, it's not fair to continue gripping, complaining about her or dragging others - like your sleepy husband - into her selfishness. It's not fair to make other people in your life suffer her selfishness, even if it's your choice to do so.

Choosing to be someone's slave will make you not a very pleasant or fun person to hang around with and it will add unnecessary stress to your marriage.

Choose carefully.

sounds to me that this person is using you!!! why not give them a taste of their own medicine- copy her behaviour and maybe she'll see the error of her ways!!!!! sometimes you need to be tough on a person like this- if she comes over again tell her she'll need to sort out a lift home first or tell her you have an early start so she can't stay too late!!! tell her you'll arrange a taxi to come at a certain time therefore she won't be tempted to stay on a little longer!!!!

if this doesnt work maybe you need to create a little bit of distance with this person because if it were me i think one day i might just snap and scream at her!!!!

good luck!!!!!

Don't have her over to dinner anymore. If she so conveniently drops in for dinner, try changing the time you eat, or don't answer the door.

she is very rude .What you do is send her on her way by telling your husband needs to get up early and if she wants a ride go home early,because you are not waking your husband any more she does not sound like a real friend good luck

After the time of helping herself to my family's food after being told that she would never have been invited again. Simple as that.

KD

Certainly a candidate for crossing off the Christmas card list !