What Should I Say to Husband's Ex-Wife?

I went through this very thing several years ago. My late husband and I were amongst those in the receiving line because it was his son also and I was my husband's wife. Why are you and your husband not in the receiving line also? He is his father and you are now his wife.

If nothing else, just show class and dignity and compliment her on her son. And wish her the best.

I think you will do fine because you are concerned about this special day for her son.

Your husband should do all he can to make you feel comfortable, if he has to step away try to make small talk with other guests. You should be civil and friendly, you can comment on how lovely the wedding is and what a great job she did in raising her son, if the opportunity to speak with her directly comes up.

If she should dare to say "she did not want you there" - just say "I'm sorry you feel this way, but let's put our feelings aside for the kids today."

If she says anything dis-settling or mean spirited - ignore it because no one wants to remember their wedding day as being "bad." And if you think in your mind that her dress is the worst you've ever seen - keep it to yourself.

This day should be about the bride and groom - not his family. Good Luck!

What Should I Say to Husband's Ex-Wife?

I am glad to finally meet you. and to tell you what a great job you did in raising your son. Then move on. Don't make a big deal about it, and do not raise a fuss about anything, It is your future daughter in law's wedding. If the mother causes a scene then just politely walk away with out saying a word. Hopefully she will have more manners then to cause a scene.

My opinion i might skip the receiving line. Just from the fact this would be an uncomfortable position for both of y'all. Not to be ugly here but i truly doubt she wants to meet up with you any more then you want to meet up with her. Ive often wondered myself how things will go down when my wife and my ex will finally meet up at some point.

just tell her how it is. like im a girl. and if my ex boyfriend was to do this to me. i guess i would actually think about the whole situation and give u a straight answer. Read here https://tr.im/GDCSv

the reason she prob doesnt respond to ur aim is either her new bf is there.. or she is just playing hard to get. all of these things is what i did to my ex boyfriend. and they work lol. he was chasing after me for 5 months (but we werent dating and we hadnt dated before) and then i played cold and yeah it got his attention. i think u should just say to her that she either loves u or she doesnt.

Give her the ultimateum...basically that u have been offered a job, but you would think it would be great to spend time with someone that u care about alot and just want to end things fun and happy.

During that time make it so unbelievable she wont want it to end.

Tell her that if she loves you that she has to break up with her boyfriend, because u cant keep going like this anymore. Just say that it is unfair on the new boyfriend, and if really did like the new boyfriend that she still wouldnt be saying that to u. Or play cold with her all the time.. dont care.. dont act like u do any way... dont respond to her things... and let her wonder what u are doing the whole summer without giving her one hint..

i say def go for the first one.. cuz the second option is just a 50/50 suicidal mission because with the first she at least gets ur aggressive i dont care side with strong points but also letting her know that u care and just want to be with her..

Just be gracious.

Remember, what this woman thinks or feels about you is immaterial. What is important is to remain calm, polite, and gracious for your step-son's wedding.

Remember, this is not YOUR day. It's your step-son's day. So if you have to choke down an insult with your wedding cake....DO IT.

And keep that smile bright for the bride when she comes down the isle.

Good Luck!

I think it is her problem and she needs to deal with it. The son is not only her family but he is your step-son and your husband son. If I were you I would go and be yourself. If you do have to speak to her make it short and to the point and polite. It's a hard situation and I'm sure your not thrilled about her being there any more than she is about you so she'll have to deal with it.

I'm sure you can find a few words to be gracious. Perhaps you can say you are happy for the groom. Leave the whole wife and ex-wife thing at home.

You dont need to have anything laid out to say , just be polite.. "hi nice to meet you" etc.. be civil u dont have to be the best of friends but remember this is a wedding for his son, so "if" she starts being evil just be the better person and ignore it and smile pleasantly..