I think I might be the worst mom ever?

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My almost 7 year old son has ADHD well at least in think so and the dr seems to agree but won't up his meds he's on 5mg of adderall xr I'm about to pack his bags and make him live with his grandparents. i can't take it anymore, we have tried everything positive reinforcement like rewards. All forms of punishment even just talking to him. nothing works we even tried the color chart thing that they do in school. Everything is a game to him everything is funny nothing is serious. I'm a rather strict parent i expect respect for me and respect of other peoples belongings. he doesn't just sit still he's constantly running and jumping around. He's always fighting with our other kids. He doesn't play in his room and when he does he's usually doing something extremely destructive like breaking things he has no good toys left because he breaks them all on purpose. He does the same thing to our other kids stuff too and ours. I don't know what to do his dr seems to think he don't need higher meds but if something don't change i'm afraid of how he's gonna turn out as an adult. My other kids aren't like that my daughter likes to be left alone and play pretend but he's always up her butt pestering her. He runs off all kinds of energy during the day outside but still when he comes in it's like a fun house in here..

Update:

we have grounded him to his bed put him in corners everything nothing has worked he will get up or out of grounded and act the same way it's like who cares what you say grrr it's so frustrating.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

DONT pawn him off on his grand parents, it will only make things worse! That is not right at all, he is not their responsibility. My grandma has to take care of my 3 cousins when she shouldn't have to, she has a lot of other things she needs to worry about.  You have to be patient. He may have become immune to his medicine. You need a new doctor! My brother has the same problem and he has been through so many medicines trying to find the right ones and the right amounts. He sees a psychiatrist and a psychologist and they communicate with each other to figure out what the problem is and how to fix it. You really need to read up on whatever they diagnose him with so you can find ways to deal with it. My whole family has read books on it so we can all find the best way to deal with his tantrums without making them worse.
I wish you the best of luck

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like your current doctor is not listening to your concerns.  It might not be the dosage of his medicine, but the medicine itself is not working anymore.  I would go to a brand new doctor and discuss this.  This new doctor will know that you are concerned because you are going for a second opinion, and will not dismiss you - he or she will do something to make things better.

? · Answer

Maybe you should tell him that if he doesn't straighten up, all of his toys will be taken away and he wont see any for a year(or more). I would probably put him in his room, take away all of the toys and maybe if you're really desperate, take out his bed? I wouldn't go that far, but maybe!

TBABYS · Answer

YOU NEED TO FIND ANOTHER DR. MY 7 YR OLD IS ON 30 MG OF ADDERALL XR AND A BOOSTER DOSE OF REGULAR ADDERALL IN AFTERNOONS. I KNOW IT DEPENDS ON SIZE AND HOW LONG THEY HAVE BEEN ON IT, BUT THAT SEEMS LOW TO ME.

hockeykid5450 · Answer

Take all his toys away, and ground him... my parents do that when my brothers act up.. and thats not very often anymore

Dont let him go outside make him stay in his room with not toys or somethin....

mom of 4 · Answer

Have you ever thought of biofeedback therapy for your child. Instead of medication it is therapy for children with ADHD Please look into it it may help you with your son.

Veronica · Answer

take him to another doctor

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