Questions about marriage, divorce, children and remarriage in the Kingdom?

well I think the youth of the world as a whole are much more spoiled than before.. Just as in USA, here in saudi, this generation of the 70's and 80's that are of marrying age now,, are spoiled.. Yes they were born during the oil boom and their families got into money quick and brought maids and drivers.. The girls dont know how to take care of a house.. They dont know how to cook, clean, or rear babies.. I know cause I see some of my girlfriends in this situation.. I absolutely cannot believe the men are willing to marry a girl that doesnt have any wife skills.. For what? just companionship? Where as the maid does everything else? Why not marry the maid then.. hahahaha. and this causes a lot of arguments, she cant cook, doesnt know anything about laundry, ironing, etc.. She never changed a diaper.. What is she there for besides sex? Seriously? .. AND on top of this, she wants 100,000SR for marriage.. hahahaha!.. yeah right.. I wouldnt marry her if I were a guy..

next issue.. 30 or above I think is what is refered to in the west as a "spinster".. it sounds harsh.. but I guess she isnt in her prime anymore.. I know that girls younger than that have to have permission to marry foreigners in Saudi, but if you are older than 30, its much easier.. I assume they feel you are at the age, where you get what you can, so they wont be so hard on you legally.. But many of my friends (female) are waiting till their 30's to marry. Men too.. seems a lot of my male relatives are in their mid 30's and not married..

As for how long the divorce takes.. There are two divorcees in my immediate group of relatives and their divorces didnt take long.. just a few weeks actually.. I guess they didnt have much to dispute about.

i didn't get upset it at all :) we have to face our problems ..

1st of all .. as what I know about ppl in Najd -central of Arabia- we don't ask about high dowries at all .. as a guy -through our traditions- I just pay 60K for the gal and her family also the set the weddin' party .. the total dowry is 60k & I present a small Gift -about 8 to 10K .. thats it ... beleive me, if a father finds a good boy he'll try his best to help him .. my dad did so with my brother in law :) .. a lovin' dad is care so much about his daughter's happiness ..

1- Hmmm, sometimes they made that desicion coz of silly things :(

2- i don't know and don't want to know .. ishallah i won't need that :)

3- Matches made in heaven :) .. some gals find a better life with the new husband .. some of theose divorced gals become 2nd, 3rd or 4th wives .

4- i don't have a specific age about that word I hate "anis" .. it's not her fault to be unwed .. sometimes her family do a very fatal mistake when they refuse the Good guys .. I know a gal who is a victim for a "crazy mom" .. that mom refused about 50 -fifty- marriage propsal ..

about men maybe it's a lil different .. i dunno y :(

also .. some mothers with their old traditions force their sons to marry young gals (16-18) sometimes that causes the problem ..

btw : mom keeps givin' me the same advise about wife's age ..& i don't want to say stop givin' me advise pls .. Finally i'll do whatever I think it's the best FOR ME ..

i wish i posted a good answer ..

Edit : there r lots of ppl who pays 25-30K as a dowry .. the time has changed :)

Answer to no.3

It's not really true..

My friend never got married before but he got married to a divorced girl who had no kids at that time and they have a kid now.

My aunt got married 3 times even though she has 4 kids actually 2 adults and 2 kids and Finally she's ok with the third she's kinda hard headed lady..

Sorry i was reading your questions fast and picked up the third question..

take care!

well i think the fighting is usually about either one cheated, or the husband spends so much time at work and not enough at home. I personally know that it is very hard for a woman to get remarried if shes divorced.