Will someone who is raped, ever be able to move on?

It obviously isn't something you will ever forget, but it does get easier to cope as time goes on. I'm glad to hear that you've sought counseling, but at this point it's probably developed to post traumatic stress disorder. A VERY similar situation happened to me about 9 months ago. For the most part the flashbacks and nightmares have stopped, but I still have them on occasion. Honestly, medication helped me more than anything. I was on Klonopin for a while to help with the anxiety and it was the only thing that made me sleep peacefully.

It also helped having support from friends. I didn't tell a soul until after I had been hospitalized some months later for an intentional overdose. I hope to god your situation doesn't come to that, but for me, it required a hospitalization for my family and friends to realize that I really needed help. The more trustworthy people you open up to, the lighter the load on your back will get. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and wish you the best in overcoming it.

Your post nearly made me cry. I am so sorry you had to go through what you went through, but I am glad you were able to talk to your father (in which I'm sorry he passed away, mine passed away when I was 8 so I understand) & your boyfriend about it. I was molested for 4 years as a kid (between 9-13 years old I think) & it was by a family member. I told a friend at the time, but we didn't speak of it for years & one day I asked her if she knew what that person did & apparently she did remember it. Since then, I've told a few friends & it took 5 years for me to tell my mother. I haven't spoken to that particular family member about it & never plan to. I love him, he is my family, but I hate him at the same time & my mom knows this. I cannot forgive him for what he did, but he has also punished himself for the past few years of his life because of what he did. I still have nightmares & flashbacks myself & I can tell everytime we're around each other, that he feels bad & awkward about it. I haven't moved on & I honestly think people who are victims of rape/molestation ever really "move on". We just learn to accept what we cannot change or couldn't change at that time. I hope you don't blame yourself for what happened because you were scared at the time & I totally understand that. I also understand why you wouldn't tell somebody or why it'd take you a while to tell somebody. I hope you haven't seen that guy since the incident, but if you still know his whereabouts, I'd have somebody find him & beat the sh*t out of him, if possible. He doesn't have to know why they're beating him up, just that they're beating him up. He needs to get what he deserves, right?

i think one of the reasons u cant get over it that u think u should hav reported immediately u kinda cant forgive ur self for that but u were too young the 1st thing u gotta do is forgivin ur self abt it

the 2nd thing i would do is gettin back at that guy if possible ive gone thru someone like that not exactly gettin raped so i totally feel ur pain

n i guess life is kinda fair with u havin such a bf who really loves n ready to b with u without being close physically to u ... he really loves u =) try to focus on the bright side

time will heal it um sure but u gotta help ur self ... b strong

My ma did...it'll take time to heal, and the flashbacks may continue. If you want to have relations with ur BF, try going slow. Do it in very draw out steps. When you get uncomfortable, stop. Leave it until you're ready to try again. For ex, if you're kissing and you have to stop, let him know. Then try again when you're ready, and as you get closer, keep the same policy. When you finally get to the point you can be close to him, maybe you'll see it as completely different. (Not saying you can't, but I can imagine it's hard if the mofo who did that to you keeps popping in your head.) I wish you the best of luck and a peaceful mind someday soon.

The wounds will eventually heal. You may not be open to it, but this is what helped me after I was raped.. Go to www.Rainn.org

There are people trained to aid rape victims 24/7. You can either call or talk to them right online! It's nice to have a person there to listen to you, that you know won't say anything rude or negative.

I have never being threw this but i say, thank god for not killing you, this are all proof that god buts in our way because he knows were able to resist it, am sure god gave you that one because he knows your going to resist it. Your not along there's millions of girls who go threw this each day.just put your head up and say ill live my life like there's no tomorrow,don't worry about the guy who did this to you because the bad things you do to people you pay it on earth ,and some people don't realize that.Be strong Honey. now you have supported boyfriend that's there for you give time to time. its the only way it would heel .and if your not able to get close to your bf try relaxing before doing what ever you guys are going to do.

am 17 i have zero experience when it comes to sex.but i love giving advices.

GOOD LUCK! if anything email me.

1) you should have reported it straightaway

2) you need to decide if you want to have a happy life or one filled with problems - that is your conscious decision

everybody moves on. I knew several people who were raped, they got past it. it is completely up to you.

counselling helps. And yes, you can move on.

I know of plenty of people who have been raped and moved on with their life and been pretty happy.

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