Is it normal to constantly imagine yourself as the opposite gender?

It isn't "Normal" for most people, no, but "Normal" is not often very cool. For example, if normality is determined by the rate of occurrence, poverty is one of the most normal things a person can experience.

Imagining yourself as the opposite sex IS very normal in the transgendered community,

but that doesn't exactly mean you are trans. I think a trans identification is a very personal sort of self-labeling. But regardless, you don't have to be trans to be dissatisfied with the gender roles people thrust on you.

People have made up many stupid things about how "Men" and "Women" are supposed to be, how they MUST be. Most of it is pretty stupid, and NOBODY embodies all the "right" traits for their gender. There are plenty of people who get along just fine doing whatever feels right to them, regardless of which of two very limiting genders those actions are perceived to belong to.

I personally identify as genderqueer because my identification with my gender difference is just THAT important to me. But you don't have to adopt any labels. Just do what feels right, and don't worry about it too much. There is much more diversity in gender expression than we are led to believe through media depictions. I would suggest looking into the transgender community, just because they have plenty of practice trying to help people understand gender differences. I think there is a good chance that they could help make sense of some things.

If you always fantasize about being with a woman sexually, if you consider yourself female, how would that make you straight?

That said, if you feel that your genuine identity is as a man, go for it. But I wonder is it that a father is a male role that makes you want it or is it that you don't like the roles you are allowed as a female? The stay at home traditional mom model does not suit a lot of woman identified people either. It's not about if you fit a stereotype or not, it's what identity you feel comfortable with yourself in.

Btw, I would definitely not recommend going to a doctor. It can be very difficult to find a trans friendly doctor even when you are specifically seeking one. If you want to explore your identity more, look up some trans groups in your area or some internet resources. You want to work this out with people who will be comfortable with you if you identify as a lesbian, as a woman, as a man, as trans, or however else you choose. The medical community is very rarely a safe space to explore gender identity.

That is probably unusual if I understand your description well.

Maybe you identify yourself as an authority or dominant figure. If your mother and / or any sisters or any (girl) friends who are your role models are dominant, then perhaps you just concider your life in that perspective. So as you think about yourself you think from a masculine perspective. If you have relationships, you may be the one in charge, or if the other person is more in charge, then you might be able to experience a softer perspective. I'm guessing that you are kind of a "tom boy" kind of girl. If you fantacize about yourself being with another girl, then you simply enjoy that and that's fine. Enjoying women does't change who you are or force you into any label, even if people like to categorize. Well most people like to categorize and classify. That's one way we organize identify and understand our so so complex world. I't a management / coping function. We simply need to understand how to use that tool in a mature and responcable way. Same as all tools. I think you probably have a very strong sense of identity and appreciation for your persona / personality / characteristics. By the way, don't be afraid of trying girls if you think you will enjoy it. At least you really will know if you really do enjoy that. That dosen't mean you have to change anything or pursue anything, or change your feelings or interactions with guys or girls. My point on the girl thing is since you fantisize about it, then it would be valuable experience and education for you. Actually it might really answer your question somehow or at least insite, perspective on your personal mystery. Good luck with your adventure & discovery. I hope you are delighted and well equiped by the answer(s). :o) Mmuahh!!

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Its not common, but your not insane or alone. I would find a therapist who has training in gender issues, dont settle for less. Whatever you decide to do, if any thing at all, you should see someone for help. Being transgender is not something you should go about by yourself. If you dont feel safe telling the people around you, dont, it will only complicate things. All you have to say is "Im feeling depressed and i was suggested doctor -------". If you want to speed things up just say you have thoughts of hurting yourself. Another way to do it is to have the the school councilor suggest a doctor appropriate for you to your parents( this involves telling the councilor, just say you dont feel safe having them tell your parents, from there on they cant legally tell them anything you dont want them to). These feelings rarely go away and usually get much stronger, you should do something. The doctor you talk to is bound by confidentiality and cant tell anyone else what you talked about. Even if your not sure they can help you, thats what they do.

You dont have to be the stereotypical "Man in a Woman's body" to be transgender, and dont tell a doctor this if it isnt true.

Its best to start soon on this stuff, you dont want to, nor is there a reason to waist time.

I left a couple links to a list of therapists who could help you.

there are many reasons why this could be happening. of course only you have the answer to this, but it sounds like this is the way you are dealing with your homosexual feelings. maybe you find it hard to admit to yourself that you like girls and instead you disguise yourself as a guy which is more acceptable.

just a thought-don't take it too seriously if it upsets you.

edit: you shouldn't be talking about it like this because you are going to hear lots of different opinions that might confuse you. The best thing to do is to visit a psychologist who specializes on issues of gender identity. It might as well be something that is just stuck into your head or it might mean a lot more. And don't forget that even the best intented opinion has a great possibility of being wrong, including mine.

I deal with these same issues everyday.I'm a male and love being a guy for many reasons.But at the same time I deal with the issues of wanting to be a professional,successful and attractive female.So I have tried cross dressing and trying to identify myself to what suit or fits me best.It's a really dilemma not knowing or sure of who you really are inside.At time you will fight it and win then after a while it comes back again to what do I really want and how can I do just to feel and be normal.Well as for me I'm still searching I myself would love to just be happy with what I am,but for some odd reason my mind keeps sending me another message,of whom I would like to become, all woman.

Yeah. I know what you mean. I'm a guy, a straight one. I am not a woman trapped inside a man's body either, but I imagine myself as a girl when I want to masturbate. I even imagine myself as a pregnant woman.

It's possible that you could be transgender and not realize it fully at this time. Or perhaps it's just a phase you're going through. Some therapy might help you sort that out and discover the real answer to the question. But to be clear, it's not exactly abnormal, though it's certainly not something most people dwell on.

If you're under 17 years old, you could still be developing and going through some weird sex phase you know.. Otherwise I have no idea.

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