my husband cheating with a 17 year old?

WOW! drama, this is like a maury povich episode, i think you and your husband have a child together. you might want to consider leaving if he was with a girl that young. it would help if you would have listed your ages and i could give you a better answer. 17 is illegal in a lot of states if he is over the 3 year age window. 38!!! wow!! he is way out of control, his decision making is a definite question mark. no , wait a minute, its quite atrocious. Leaving is actually not a bad idea. good luck

You should leave him. It's a lot easier said than done, I know, but if he was unfaithful to you this time, how can you ever know he won't be again? Or how can you know this has been the only time?

If you feel like you can work it out with him, then you can try. I am pretty sure that you will always have some trust issues with him, though.

And a 17 year old? Wow, that's awful. I can't imagine how you must feel right now, but I feel bad for you and am truly sorry this had to happen to you.

Go get yourself a gallon of ice cream, move in with a friend or family member and try to get on with your life without him.

It bothers me that you call her a Wh0#e. What about him? What is your name for him? Because for a lot of people it would be a pretty ugly one. Look at the ages. He is undoubtedly an adult, and has been for a long time. Her? Not so much. This is not just about her being cute in shorts (if it is at all). There's the whole power thing. What on earth makes you think his behavior will change?

Pack his bags and throw them on the front lawn,divorce him, take half of everything you can.

If you're in the USA isn't this an offence in some states as she is still classed as a minor? If in the UK find out when it started and if she was underage report him.

Tell her parents all about it, play every dirty hurtful feel better trick you can.

Then watch as he drowns under debt and dirty nappies with someone not old enough to even go to the pub with him...unless it's a bottle of vimto and a packet of crisps she wants!

Hehe he can leave both kids in the car while he pops in for a pint!

i agree with the person who asked if you are the same person that asked what to do because they were 17 and pregnant and what's really ironic about it is you answered that question and that question only. If their were real I would think you been living with him all this time and you know what he is like and it doesn't sound like it bothers you that much your biggest thing was the baby so stay with him and if the girl want to give up her baby then you now have a child of his.

If you stay with him forget about custody of the child since it will serve as a constant reminder of his infidelity and severely immature (and what could be illegal) behavior. Leaving him may be a good answer since he obviously could get into legal and moral difficulties dealing with such a pathetic blunder. If I were in your shoes I'd seriously consider leaving but after 5 years it will be harder to separate than strangers such as us could imagine. Good luck

WOW!!! That is considered statutory rape! She is a minor and your husband is an adult! I would run from this as fast as you can. You deserve a husband who doesn't cheat on you with teenagers! Do NOT fight for custody of this child, file for divorce NOW!

Have you not already posted this Q as "julia"?

You have no right with regards to custody. You're not the maternal parent- she is, 17 or not.

Get a grip and walk out. Get divorced and get yourself a decent man.

You need to leave him, especially if hes continuing this relationship with his preg mistress and you just found out. He doesnt care, and hes probably looking to be with this girl and his kid once she's of age, cause right now, isnt it statutory rape for under 18? Also, your husband broke the promise, you dont know what he told her, if anyone deserves a bad name, its your husband.

Oooh - sorry!

Think about if you can handle the fact that he's having a child with another woman. Decide what's best for you. It's his responsibility to decide what's best for his child. Can you treat this new person lovingly without blaming him/her for your husband's infidelity? You have at least 4 more months to decide. Take care of yourself!!!