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Can my fiance and I get married while he is Air Force tech school?

He is studying to be an airborne crypto linguist so the tech school is almost two years and I can not afford to relocate without some help from the BAH. Can he go to Vegas for the weekend? Should we just get married now? He hasn't shipped to basic yet. We want a nice small wedding, not a court house affair if we can help it.

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  • Carrot
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    Yes. DLI is often referred to as the "Desperate Love Institute" or the "Defense Love Institute" -- students there get married ALL THE TIME. And it's not uncommon for them to go to Vegas for the weekend, assuming they're in the appropriate phase (which doesn't long to achieve in the Navy... not sure about the Air Force).

    Getting married before joining the military is helpful. You'll be able to move with him to DLI after a short while and the military will pay for the move. Check with his recruiter to make sure it's ok, but it shouldn't be a problem. He will not get kicked out of DEP for it. I got married in the time between signing my contract and shipping, and all I had to do was update a couple of my forms. Good luck to both of you!

    Source(s): Me, Navy Officer Candidate Husband, Active Duty Navy CTI1 who spent 2 years in Monterey
  • 1 decade ago

    Get married before he goes to basic! While he's in basic you will get BAH. You'll also have medical through tricare. You'll get 250$ a month for seperation allowance. When he gets shipped to hes 2 year tech school they will pay to ship all your gear over there. If you wait untill he's in tech school to get married you may end up getting screwed. Get married now, and have a nice big ceremony after he gets out of tech school.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    He might have to get permission from his CO because if his marital status changes while he is in training it is possible that the AF could refuse him base housing or BAH if it was not pre-authorized. I am not saying that this is likely, but I have heard of it turning into a HUGE hassle for people. It really depends on his commanding officer. Some are very lenient and say"do what you want, just don't get into trouble" and some think that they need to give their guys permission for EVERYTHING. But I would hate for it to turn in to such a big ordeal and then there is a lot of paperwork and approvals to get just so your BAH will kick in or you can get approved for base housing. All the luck!!

  • 1 decade ago

    YES.

    I was in the Air Force and I saw many people get married while they were in Tech School. "Tech School Marriages" were fairly common and they were often doomed to fail. However, YOU do not represent a case of "Tech School Marriage" since you were planning on getting married before he joined, or once in Tech School. All I have to say is "GOOD LUCK, BEST WISHES!!"

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  • 1 decade ago

    Get married now so he can claim you as dependent from the beginning ( before he ships to basic). That way you can save some money while he will be on basic training because you will not going to be able to join him during this time anyway and move later.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you can do it before he goes you'll save yourself paperwork and maybe some headache...

    If you wait he'll probably wont be able to do anything till he graduates tech (He'll get to take leave, basicalyl vacation time) before he and you go to his first duty station.

    In tech school they dont really let you take any leave or anything so you might as well do it now...hoepfully you guy are comitted marriage shouldnt be taken lightly...

    Source(s): Been there done that...
  • Mrsjvb
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    no he will not be allowed to leave DLI.

    also just because you may be able to get married( by you going up to Monterey and doing the JoP thing) get married does NOT mean that you can move up there any way( on the military's dime) especially if he is there before you get married.

    If you get married before he ships out he may end up getting DQd as he is in DEP and has agreed to not change his status( to include acquiring dependents. the SF will do acredit check on him if he is married.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    As soon as you get married you are no longer a dependent, you are a spouse.

  • 1 decade ago

    do it before and have him go see his recruiter and update his records

    you wont be moving until hes has his first duty station though

    unless his command oks it for tech school most dont even that long as spouses are a distraction

  • 1 decade ago

    just do what you want. its your life, your wedding =D

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