I know this woman who is messing with a married man. Why does she make this statement all the time?

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I do not judge her but I tell her that just because he is a cheater she does not have to be involved with him. She said that if his wife was not a slob he would not have to cheat on her. Men need visual stimulation and don't want to see a fat slob. She said she is more attracted to married men. I told her she has been in so many so called relationships with married men and they keep promising her they will leave their fat or annoying wives and never do. She said that is because they are cowards. She said she is the winner in the situation because the wife comes second to her. I asked what planet is she from. She said she is pretty and sexy and these men know it. That all married men cheat and it is natural. They get bored with what is at home and need a trophy like her. I asked if she is so sexy and pretty why is she single and why do she not want to get married one day. She said because it is easier being single. I said winners should not have to worry about that. She is always talking about her current lovers wife really badly. I told her if she was so confident why must she always slander this woman? She said because she can do that. What is wrong with her. I asked her would she mess with a friends husband she said yes. It is not her fault that the friends husband would want her. I told her that is not a true friend. What is wrong with this woman's mentality. She is very pretty and sexy and could have any single man she wants. Why does she feel that sleeping with a married man makes her a winner and the wives losers? From what I know they never leave their wives for her and she still feels she is the winner. Once she threatened to tell this guys wife and he told her he would kill her. Does that sound like a winner to you?

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Well she was a classmate of mine last semester and started talking to me. I am not her friend nor do I befriend people like that. She talked to me after or before class and I am not rude. I am a psychology minor so her point of view did interest me even if I did not agree. I feel sorry for sad women like that. My best friend has values and morals unlike her and I have let it be known to her that she is wrong and is never the winner. She is just a person that talked to me daily and I listened. I am not going to shun people just because I think she is not a moral person. I did eventually stop talking to her when she told me she would sleep with a friend or associates man too. I told her she had deep issues and need help before she gets hurt.

peking · Accepted Answer

Sheesh. How can you say you don't judge her? Of course you do. And so do I. We all judge other people. That's what we have brains for. 

I agree with the other reply ...you do need to find a better class of friends. Why would you want to know someone like this? Don't worry about why she does what she does ...that's her problem, and when she's old and not so pretty she will learn that sleeping with married men and "skating on your looks" is not a good retirement plan.

EDIT: I'm glad you clarified that she is not your friend. Whew. But "I am not going to shun people just because I think she is not a moral person." ... well, maybe you have more free time than I do. I don't have much time in my life for people I don't like or respect.

Trisha · Answer

nothing about this woman sounds like a  winner to me. Pretty and sexy only go so far and that is probably why she can't find her own man.

Anonymous · Answer

She sounds like a VERY insecure, sad person. Sleeping with married men is morally wrong, it does not make her a "winner", it makes her a total skank.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing about this woman sounds like a winner to me.  She sounds downright pitiful.  I also think you need a better class of friends.

asiank · Answer

She is not a winner at all.  Why would u want to be friend with someone like her anyway?

rendered heartless · Answer

Maybe she or a member of her family had been through a similar experience, so she is emotionally scarred and insecure, and she fills up the void inside her by snagging husbands to make her feel better about herself.

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muffy · Answer

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