anyone have a mid trimester miscarriage?

You are not alone, I will keep you in my prayers. This too shall pass. I too lost my baby at 5 months, back in september the 1st, 2008. My little boy that is deaf, came up to me one day and touched my tummy and told me the baby died. I told him to not say that, but the doctor confirmed his date. That first week or two seemed so sad. I do have a lot of sisters and brothers, but I do not live near them. It doesn't matter who is around you, you still feel you are facing it alone in your heart. No one gets it like you, or another woman who has gone through it.

I talked to God a lot, and came to peace over it. I come to realize he did love my baby, so much that he wanted it in heaven with him. It was his will. And I thought maybe he wanted me to have a little more of a reason to make it to heaven someday.

You know I cannot tell you how to get through it, I can just promise you it will get better in time. I tried for almost 2 yrs, to get pregnant, then lost it. But 8 mos, later I'm pregnant again. I am now 4 months along. So never loose hope, or feel alone. God said he would never leave you nor forsake you. Your baby is an angel now, and is in a much better place.

Write in a journal, and join a website to share with other grieving moms, like Baby zone.

I went through the anger stage, and even the guilt stage, where I blamed myself, and my husband, but in time I realized that I was just a surrogate mother to this child, it was God's all along. He let me carry it for just a while, and someday I can ask him why?.

I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and another at 18 weeks. No one in my family had ever experienced a miscarriage before, and no one in my family has lost a child before, so it was impossible for them to understand what I was going through. Also, people I know who had experienced a miscarriage before had an early miscarriage, and they did not understand that at 16 weeks I actually had a baby to hold. I got pictures and footprints of my babies. I also lost a baby born at 22 weeks. With this baby, my family came to the hospital to see me, and at the time I still had the baby in the room with me. I remember my mother coming in, seeing me still holding my little girl who had passed away just a few hours before, and walking out of the room. I remember thinking that it wasn't fair that she could walk out of the room and forget about it when I had to sit there holing my little girl crying. I will tell you that this is something that you will never get over, but it will get easier to handle as time passes. No one will say the right thing. They don't realize that it is the wrong thing to say- they are just trying to be helpful, but they can't understand unless they have been in your place. People will say things like, "You will have more children." When they say this, it is as though they are saying that the baby you lost can be replaced by another child somehow. I always think, would someone say that to me if it were my three year old that died instead of my baby that was just born? What helped me to cope was seeing and talking to other people who had been through a similar experience. They are the only ones who won't belittle your feelings without realizing it. Remember that it is ok to feel how you are feeling at any given moment. If you are happy about something, if someone tells a joke that you think is funny and you laugh, it is ok. You don't always have to be sad. It is also ok to be sad. You don't have to be happy all the time. It is ok to go into a quiet room and cry. I hope you can find some peace in your life. This is something that no woman should ever have to experience. Nothing will ever take the pain away, but you will start to enjoy life again. It takes time.

No, I was seven or eight weeks along when I lost my kid and didn't know about it until the tenth. I was fine at first but I was still upset but I didn't start crying over it or being depressed until the next night and it was worse the next day because someone at work is pregnant. I cope with it by talking about it a lot and I asked miscarriages questions on forums I go to but not much support. Not every woman is answering them.

I have gotten "You're young" "Miscarriages happen in lot of early pregnancies" "It's natures way of quitting when something isn't right with the egg" "It's natures way of saying it wasn't the right time" "Sorry for your loss" "Are you going to try again?" "You're very fertile" "We all know you can get pregnant real easily because look what happened" "You got pregnant real quick so it won't be a problem to get pregnant again" "You can try again" "Just because you miscarried doesn't mean you will never have kids" "You have every right to feel this way" "All my sisters miscarried except Aunt Carol and they all had kids, you can too" and "You still have lot of time."

My friend lost her baby at 26 weeks and she didn't know until 28 weeks. She had to go through early labor and deliver it and she had it buried. But now she is pregnant again with her third child and is at 23 weeks.

No, I have never suffered a m/c at 20 weeks (but did at 7 weeks), and I am very sorry to hear that ((hugs))

People usually do not know how to react or what to say in these situations probably cause they don't wanna make you feel sadder. What about your partner? are you both being open and talking feelings about this? are you both being supportive to each other? I think that would help a lot.

I'm catholic and a Priest once told me some babies are so perfect God needs them in heaven to become angels.

I hope you find support and peace for your heart ((hugs))

I'm sorry to read of the death of your baby. :(

Have you checked with your local support groups through churchs, hospital, or social service programs?

There are support groups online as well. google "miscarriage support forums".