i need advice please?

In my opinion it sounds like you need some time on your own... I don't know who, or how this one person has affected you, but it sounds like you were in some kind of co-dependency... like many of us at some point in our lives. Just concentrate and remember the things you liked to do before you found yourself in this situation and even as a child... what are those simple things that you like to do? What makes you laugh? How do you get to be in that position where you can enjoy yourself? Make an inventory of all the good and bad things you had before and everything you can have now. If it's a loss you're mourning, there's nothing you can do but mourn. But sooner or later you're gonna get sick of it and realize you might have spent too long feeling sorry for yourself. Get with some friends, get out there, and meet people. Don't get critical, just talk to people, no one is worse off for meeting you, and you certainly will feel better. It's hard to change old habits. Just get back on that horse as fast as you can, no matter how many tries.

You should really sit your family down and explain the entire situation and how you're feeling. They probably just don't understand. Seeing as it was a long distance relationship they probably don't think about the fact that the break up can affect you just as much as an in person relationship. Unless they've been there, they don't know. If they STILL don't understand, tell them you're going to need some time to work things out with yourself and then avoid them as much as possible to avoid making things worse.

As for getting back on your feet and enjoying life, just do the things you love. Cook or draw or read, go to the movies, etc... anything that would normally put you in a better mood even if you were already in a good one. Go out for drinks with friends and try to surround yourself with people who will make you smile instead of argue with you.

I know it's been rough. Good luck and email any time!

Be there for her and try and get her to talk to her parents... By her talking to them gives her more options on wether or not she wants to keep it or even adoption she has more options now than she will later. Her parents will find out eventually just make sure it's not to late. And be a good friend and try and help/guide her to make the choices she wants and not what anyone "wants" her to do because she am has to deal with it later on in life no matter what she decides... And like the girl before said her parents will grow to the idea and yes there's a chance they'll loose it but the won't hurt her or the baby. So encourage her to make her decisions that will benefit her in the end.

It takes time to get past the loss. Have you thought about a school counselor? I know that sounds old and all but I'm getting counseling, and it really helps. I don't know if you are still in school. When you feel really bad, depressed, do a little exercise, take a walk, jog or something to bring those endorphins up. Talk to a friend. I heard that if you keep a rubber band around your wrist and everytime you think about your ex, snap it. It's supposed to train your mind not to think about it too much. I don't know if that works. Still, I hope you feel better soon.

It pains like a hell. But I guess being a mature and intelligent woman, you know the way out. You may take this break up on your stride and move on in the life. You should find solace in your family.

Learning something new and put all your energy in it, is the most useful way to overcome the agony inflicted by a bitter breakup.

Best of luck.

First & foremost I feel that Family should be there for you as your going through this change of ordeal in your life, Miss Vee is correct and much more insightful ; ) I too feel that you need to take time to reflect and collect your thoughts, and sort them out best to your needs, being with someone for as long as you have, you need a breather to think more clearly about what you want, but remember, your wants and your needs are 2 different things.

Keep in mind to always surround

yourself with good friends who are positive.

(((hugs)))

Well if they love you they should understand that you're going through a rough time right now. I know it's hard to hear right now, but time really does heal all wounds. It really helps to get all your feelings out, find a counselor, therapist, or friend to talk to.

if worse comes to worse write a few journal entries and talk to yourself, after awhile start to focus on things that make you feel good.

hope you feel better soon!

The start is to take away the things that remind you of him, just keep a photo for a memento, and think about the bad things about him, his annoying habits you are glad to be rid of. Imagine how your life would have been had you both stayed together. Think of the other opportunities in your life, how you most likely will meet someone better. Whenever you start to think of him just give yourself a pinch and maybe you will no longer want to think about him. Good luck.

If you haven't made a complete break with your boyfriend you need to do that.

Life's problems and troubles are sometimes too much for us to handle. We aren't meant to handle them alone. I found out the help that Jesus gives many years ago. If you haven't given your heart and life to him you should do that. If you have call out to Him in faith. He will help you through these struggles.

If you would like to talk further to me email me.

A month ago I probably could have given you an inspiring answer, but I'm very depressed and raising my medication. It's hard for me to enjoy life, and to be harshly frank-- I wish I wasn't here. The one thing I do enjoy is walking around here in NYC and seeing all the beautiful people (yes, in both a perverted and sincere way), as well as listening to music. Best of luck.