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How do I begin trying to locate a child that might have been purposely switched without my knowledge/consent?
( Sorry This Is So Long) I was raped and got pregnant at 16, my mother tried to force me to have an abortion and I refused. My son was born in Dyersburg Tennessee on February 15, 1979. I was put under 2 minutes before his birth and woke up in recovery alone, where I stayed alone for over 45 minutes. I saw my son for only a minute before he was rushed to another hospital in Memphis with serious birth defects, He died a week later. Now, 30 years later my sister, brother and Aunt say they believe my mother arranged for my healthy child to be switched with the ill one of an older married couple. There are so many unusual things surrounding his birth and death that this has but doubt that the child I gave birth to actually died. I've grieved every day for 30 Long years and no matter what, the baby I loved and watched die is mine, but I have 6 autopsy reports, no 2 are the same and it's extremely rare for a healthy non-smoking, non-drinking, non- drug using 16 year old to give birth to a baby with Down's Syndrome. If my biological child IS alive (and I'm not holding out hope) How could I begin to try and find him? If he is alive I did not give him up and at the 30 he'd have to know the parents who raised him are not his biological parents. I'll welcome any help. Thanks.
My mother died in 1995, it was only recently I had reason to think she might have done this to me. My brother and sister believe her capable of it and my Aunt told me over the weekend that my mom thought of finding another way to get rid of the baby I refused to abort. I never had reason to doubt my child died all those years ago until now. The doubt is tearing me apart. BTW I did marry in 1980 and had two perfectly healthy children who are grown up now with children of their own. I feel lost, confused and betrayed, not to mention afriad if this is true.
My mother died in 1995, it was only recently I had reason to think she might have done this to me. My brother and sister believe her capable of it and my Aunt told me over the weekend that my mom thought of finding another way to get rid of the baby I refused to abort. I never had reason to doubt my child died all those years ago until now. The doubt is tearing me apart. BTW I did marry in 1980 and had two perfectly healthy children who are grown up now with children of their own. I feel lost, confused and betrayed, not to mention afriad if this is true. The sweet baby boy I watched die was shown to me for only a literal minute before he rushed to Memphis and I was only allowed to see him 4 times for five minutes after he arried in Memphis. The doctor who delivered him is dead, the hospital where he was born won't talk to me and the hospital where he died won't let me have post autopsy photos, but sent the 6 different autopsy reports over the years, I never even held him.
I have the birth and death certificates of the child I loved and buried and the wrist bands put on him at both hospitals. I don't have the resourses for a PI sadly. IF my mother did manage to switch babies I could have had a healthy girl. I wish my Aunt had never told me this.
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- EthelLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Oh, some of the nurses are alive still and they would talk to you before a doctor would anyway. I'd start researching them. I have a friend who found out the social worker/nurse who worked with his mother and adoptive parents lived nearby and was able to speak to her face to face about the adoption, she was a great resource.
There are also adoption networks of kids looking for biological parents and parents searching for adopted children. And surely there has to be records about it, babies aren't just switched without records even 30 years ago.
- Gifted <3Lv 51 decade ago
Your first step would be to get a list of all the babies born in Dyersburg TN on that exact date and through out the week. Local newspapers may still have that info. Then, start calling. Im baffled as to why the hospital wont talk to you or wont allow you the photos. Something smells funky. If you get nowhere with the list, try a lawyer.
- bigDcowgirlLv 71 decade ago
WOW, I am so sorry to hear about your pain all these years. I can't even imagine your grief. I think the person that said hire a PI is correct, and I would start by checking records of births during that week at both hospitals and maybe go from there. I do wish you luck and hope you can find some closure. =)
- Not a sweetieLv 61 decade ago
Check the birth certificate to get the name of the witness to birth (usually a midwife). This person would have been the one to put a name anklet on your baby. Normally they do it straight after birth, in the same delivery room. When I gave birth, the nurse showed me the anklet with the name (my name already written) and following my agreement, she put this around the baby's ankle. No mistake possible there as you can't take them off unless you cut them. Try tracking down this midwife if you suspect an irregularity.
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- 1 decade ago
wow. this is intense! I'm sorry i don't have a decent answer for you! take those 6 autopsy reports to a private investigator and see what they think. hopefully that isn't too expensive! I'm sure they can trace hospital records back to that date, locate any couple with ill babies, and contact them?
- marraLv 45 years ago
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
oh sweetie that is such a horrible and sad story! my thoughts and prayers go out to you....maybe talk to your mom about it. maybe she can tell u what really happened. I would hope your mother wouldnt lie to you about something like that! or maybe your dad if he knows anything. you can contact the hospital he was born at and the one he was tranfered to and see if they know anything.
I hope you find your son!
