Stuck in a "Adult" life trap?

Well, it sounds like you are too sheltered to step out on your own, which is something you're going to want to knock off as quick as you can. If you are too afraid of other people to walk outside, I feel sorry for you, really. Take it from me. I'm 24, extremely good looking, and in a rough neighborhood. I cannot even walk to the end of my block without some guys saying "Heeyyyy Mammiii" and trying to get my attention, but I get over it. I have a nice SUV and I still walk sometimes. You MUST get over it, you HAVE TO. You will never get anything in life unless you work, and you already know that. Until then, it's your BOYFRIEND'S job to drive you places you need to go. If you're going to be in an adult relationship, you need to support each other as adults. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 18, and we've taken care of each other, bought clothes, cars, for each other, given rides to each other, given tons of money to each other, shared apartments, let each other move into our own personal apartments, etc. If you guys are going to have a serious adult relationship, you need to own up to that responsibility, too. Can't he drive you to and from work and school until you buy your own car? Honestly, I should tell you the only worthwhile jobs are waitressing, bartending or stripping, and I did all of them. Anything else pays like 12 dollars an hour and that's not enough money for anyone to live off of, let alone someone trying to buy a car. I'd go look for a waitressing job if I were you.

you described a big problem of mine also,18, (although i have a permit) no car, no job, no license. my parents are also unhelpful about it and wont help me but are quick to point the finger and criticize me.

sometimes friends let me drive their cars and stuff like that. you could try that.

if you live in the u.s. then chances are you're in the same boat as me and jobs are hard to come by at this time, just have to keep looking. you can try taking the bus also though, i do that but jobs are still hard to get for me. also you have to realize that there are creepy people everywhere and just try to avoid them

i'm not exactly sure what help i am, i'm just a person that's basically in the same position as you are. hopefully things will turn up for the both of us soon :)

If you don't have a learner's permit (not just not a license), ask your parents or your boyfriend to take you to get it. If you do have a permit, but just not a license, ask your parents or your boyfriend to take you. You don't have to have a car to get a driver's license...you just have to have access to a car that is legal in your state, and that's how to do it without your parents.

Walking to get a job is a great step since you can't drive to find a job! It can be really scary out there...but just remember your goal when you get scared. Keep your head up, and stay alert. That will help keep people at bay that have bad intentions.

You are in a tough cycle that can be really tough to break. It may not seem like it, but going to school IS a big first step that will help you out. Keep your head up, and keep moving forward. You may not be where you want to be right now, but as long as you keep moving, you CAN get out.

It's a shame that you haven't been able to get a job so far. I started working when I was 16. So did my friends. I rode my bike to work until I saved enough for a car of my own.

What were you expecting to happen? I don't understand. How have you been planning to live on your own? Most people get a job and then a car and then an apartment. How else were you expecting to do it when you were an adult?

You're now an adult. What adult responsibilities are you expecting to take care of yourself? Why do you expect your parents to take care of all of your responsibilities? Are you disabled in some way?

Get to know the public transportation route in your area. Yes, sometimes people will talk to you, but get over it. Take the bus or walk to work. You cant get out of your situation without a job, so start there.

Just stop complaining, life will never get easier, you may have car and job and everything else,. but unless u look for the happy with-in ur heart you will never be peaceful. Desires are unlimited, just have to control them….

get a job, take the bus and save up for a car